[FlaglerAmanda]

I graduated December 2013, started my experience requirement the same time. I’ve taken the majority of the additional classes since then – just have two business classes left. Plan was to complete all 4 sections/experience/150 Hours all at the same time.

Husband was on board – but kind of glossed over the detail of how freaking busy I’d be working for a tax/compilation firm AND getting all of this done. He only heard the part of “Done in one year”. He’s now emotionally involved with an ex girlfriend — and we’ve had these issues MANY times in the past.

It’s hard to concentrate on Gleim when your life is falling apart, ya know?

FAR - 86
BEC - 88
REG - 83
AUD - 74, 89 Done!!!!

Two business classes between me and being a FL CPA!!!

[mnm87]

Ok, I had to post here. I want to tell you a few things. I'm sorry if they sound brutal but i think you deserve better. I know i dont know much a bout your relationship and i could be wrong so i'm basing my ideas below on two facts 1) that your husband is emotionally involved with his ex 2) he works at a grocery store

1) Your husband is emotionally involved with his ex and has done do numerous times in the past has NOTHING to do with your CPA exam. It just means he is a weak, and selfish person.

2) You are a CPA and your husband works ina grocery store. I think you are intelligent and should try to be in a relationship where the guy also has some sort of career so that he can understand your position more.

3) I'm not telling you to leave your husband but I know how rough this exam process is even with a healthy relationship. I really think after your exam you should consider what you are worth.

I'm really really sorry if this brutal. To be honest, love is bullshit. It's about compassion, understanding, care. You really deserve better.

[A] - 86 7-2013
[F] - 70 - Retake May 23rd 2014 80
- 10/29/14
[R] - 11/30/14

[mnm87]

again, I;m really sorry for being so harsh. but i grew up in a family where my father was like that and ended up cheating on my mom numerous times. She had kids but she separated for their own good and we understood very well.

i just dont get how people are saying that people give up to easily in relationships. there are certain things you dont compromise. you are a well worthy person. Maybe my opinion is harsh because i've gone through this situation with my parents.

[A] - 86 7-2013
[F] - 70 - Retake May 23rd 2014 80
- 10/29/14
[R] - 11/30/14

[mla1169]

MNM, it doesn't matter what her husband does for a living. Who cares where he works or what he does there? Plenty of successful white collar women are happily married to blue collar men, like myself. He doesn't need to be in a similarly suited line of work to be supportive and a great husband/father. My husband has worked in factories and currently deliveries. He is EVERYTHING that I am worth. You may think I'm an anomaly but there are bunches of wives here on this forum who have great husbands who only put on button down shirts for weddings and funerals.

FAR- 77
AUD -49, 71, 84
REG -56,75!
BEC -75

Massachusetts CPA (non reporting) since 3/12.

[Mamabear]

I agree with mla. It doesn't matter what her husband does. My husband has done every type of job imaginable and is now a hair stylist and waits tables as a second job. He encourages me and is really supportive of this entire process. It is possible that OP's husband isn't being supportive because he doesn't understand the importance of the CPA, which a lot of people that aren't in accounting don't understand. However, that shows more against his character than his employer. He could understand, regardless of what he does for a living, if he cared enough to take the time to understand. He isn't taking the time, which shows he doesn't care IMO.

CPA Exam - Finally DONE (November 2014)
BEC (08/10/13) 80
AUD (08/24/13) 65 (11/13/13) 85
FAR (04/12/14) 81
REG (07/19/14) 69 (11/29/14) 87!!

[Gatorbates]

I think he isn't being supportive because he's a Delta Bravo.

And Excel … no hard feelings … Hernandez is right where he belongs. Winston, not so much. 🙂

Licensed Florida CPA:
B: 71, 73, 79
A: 83
R: 78 (expired), 77
F: 74, 74, 80

It's finally freaking over.

[FlaglerAmanda]

@Gatorbates, totally stealing that term.

FAR - 86
BEC - 88
REG - 83
AUD - 74, 89 Done!!!!

Two business classes between me and being a FL CPA!!!

[Excel14]

@Gatorbates:

Well, based on all indications of the chick's story, and the lack of support by her friends or any other witnesses, I would say there is a reason Winston hasn't been charged. He may be guilty of a lot of bonehead things, but those close to the sexual assault situation, say it is bogus on her part. In any event, every school has its “black eyes”.

What do they call an accounting person, who only managed a 75 on all four parts of the CPA exam....you got it, CPA!!!

BEC (2/28/16) ----- 78
FAR (09/10/16)-----
AUD
REG

CIA, CGAP, CFE

[LStevens225]

I never thought I would be coming to this forum for advice on the topic of divorce but here I am.

My husband of three years recently graduated college and took a boys trip to Colorado. The morning he came back he told me that he's decided he does not want children. This was a punch to the gut. He'd always talk to me when I was skeptical about having kids saying how great it'd be and how wonderful our kids would be. Also after he told me this new I went a little stalkerish and looked at his phone records. Turns out he called another woman to discuss it with her before me. Another punch.

Now I've talked to him about if we're giving up to easily. He says no. We want different things and we shouldn't be together. Now I know marriage is hard… LORD do I know…. We've been through the ringer and recently had finally found how to deal with each other in a sense. Our marriage had been wonderful for about 6 months. We dealt with our issues so well. No more huge fights. We both SEEMED soo happy. I just want people to know that there is no more talking with him. He made up his mind and there is no changing… I have begun to accept this. It hurts like hell but I am dealing.

We have split most of our assets/debt already. I have talked to the attorney and we are moving forward. The house… oh goodness the house. Lots of fixing up to do but it'll get done and if we make or lose money we still discuss this in mediation.

How do I jump back into studying? I know I will need a stronger mindset that I do right now. But the added pressure of a divorce and moving back in with mom and dad (The agony is unbearable….) and having passed FAR and I have to pass the rest by Feb 2016. Oh and the depression… woe is me. I know I know but I don't know how this works.

[Lion_of_the_Rock]

Honestly maybe the exam will be a nice distraction. When you study, just turn off your phone, etc. and sink into the books/lectures and don't worry about the divorce.

If it makes you feel any better a friend of mine told me about a co-worker who went through the same thing and she ended up passing all four sections very quickly because she used studying as an escape from what she was going through.

Good luck. It sounds like you're better off without him. Find somebody who wants kids, at least you aren't breaking up a home with kids at this point.

BEC - 78
AUD - 75
REG - 74, 79
FAR - 75

You have to buy a ticket to win the raffle.

[Anonymous]

LStevens225,

I am sorry you have to go through this. But at least you don't have kids yet, that would have been 1000 worse.

[Pandarama]

mla1169 said, “When I divorced we decided our home was not “my” home or “his” home but the kids' home. So on the weekends when he had the kids I packed up my stuff and went to stay with my parents and he stayed at the house with the kids.”

Wow, your husband and you gain major respect from me. This is a great solution to a sad situation. Happy to hear your marriage ultimately got worked out though in the long run.

@mnm87 – I'm in agreement with mla and mamabear. I don't think it's really fair to judge a person based on their job. This is basically a double standard. A guy has to have a high paying job otherwise he loses respect from everyone? Yet a woman can have the same crappy job as the guy and no one says one bad word about it. Every situation is obviously different of course. Though I do appreciate you bringing an honest and brutal opinion to the table.

@OP and others – many relationships tend to go sour because the appropriate boundaries aren't set. I can't believe this guy is talking to his ex on the phone for more than 5 minutes unless it's something seriously important. I have no issue with my significant other keeping in touch with ex's but he also knows where the line of a conversation and physical contact needs to be drawn.

This is definitely a rough time to be dealing with these issues, though there will never be a good time for dealing with the issue. I personally think you need to make a decision and act on it. Prolonging things typically doesn't improve a situation. Hopefully you've made progress in the last few months since this post has been started.

BEC - 80
AUD - 64, 75 - credit lost, 90!!
REG - 73, 74, 83
FAR - 61, 72, 85

Feels good finishing on my best note. Time to watch the mailbox.

[Skynet]

This why a marriage should be like the classification of an operating lease on a year-to-year basis with indefinite renewals. The terms of the marriage to be agreed on before hand like the inception of a lease to prevent any misunderstanidngs. All materials gained and children involved should be considered lease improvements.

AUD - 90
BEC - 78
FAR - 84
REG - 87

World Domination Plan

Phase I : Pass CPA Exams - Complete
Phase II : Megan Fox - In Progress
Phase III : Megan Fox & Scarlett Johansson Lingerie Pillow Fight
Phase IV : Form the new Charlie's Angels with Megan Fox, Scarlett Johansson, & Gal Gadot
Phase V : TBD

BEC : 78
REG : 87
FAR : 84
AUD : 90

World Domination Plan

Phase I : Pass CPA Exams - Complete
Phase II : Megan Fox - Initiated
Phase III : Bring back 8-Tracks
Phase IV : Megan Fox & Scarlett Johansson Lingerie Pillow Fight
Phase V : TBA

[Zyx]

Skynet cracks me up but he is damn right!

I'm with mla. My husband works at a grocery store that provides one of the best healthcare and benefits for employees (of course not Walmart). So who cares he does not wear shirts and work at a luxury office! Sometime I can't stand some white collars who think they are better than blue collars just because they wear shirts and ties everyday. Every job is equal.

@mnm87 I'm sorry to hear that. I think you will find good solutions to solve it. I have been studying a lot and barely have time with my husband. So he got a PS4 and entertains himself while I'm studying. You're doing the best for your family. Some people just never understand how difficult to work on CPA.

AUD - 77
BEC - 81
FAR - 80
REG - 77

zyx

REG: 77 x2
BEC: 81 x3
FAR: 68 retake 10/1
AUD: 8/27

[aj2013]

@Flagler From a fellow Amanda, I guess I mostly want an update from you. Does he still talk to her on the phone all the time? Is she visiting/staying in your house?

Cheating is NEVER good. Especially when you're married. (Sorry, I'm probably being obvious.) He made a promise to be with you, and while he's living in your house, he's mentally with her. Have you asked him for a reason he's talking to/about her more than you?

I agree with what a lot of people have said previously, marriage comes first – before CPA, before kids, whatever.

Also, how is he on your date nights? He talks about her? That is a slap in the face. You've dedicated your time away from studying (way more important than an ex) and he still can't let her go.

I don't know your situation, but I'm sure you have a gut feeling. My gut feeling (despite knowing very little) is to confront him and ask him to go to counseling with you. If he doesn't get rid of this ex business, you need to get rid of him though.

B - 80
A - 80
R - 71, 59, 74, 80 FINALLY!
F - 77

Used Kaplan for FAR, BEC, AUD, and the first 2 REG attempts. I started using NINJA about 2 weeks before my 3rd REG attempt. I believe it's why I was so close to passing and why I passed the 4th time. USE IT FROM THE BEGINNING.

[SomedayCPA2015]

L.Stevens225 I am so sorry to read this. I recently split with the father of my children and have moved back in with my parents (talk about a hit to the pride) as I finish up the exams. He decided 10 days before I took my second section that he just didn't know if it was going to work out. I took my exam and moved out of the house on the same day. There was no way I could have moved prior to it, given his terrible timing. I have used studying as a way to distract myself. When I get sad or feel sorry for myself, I study. As I wait for my score next week, I've actually been incredibly sad about the situation because I do not have the distraction of studying. Maybe it's foolish of me, but for me it works. I hope you can channel your energy into the exam as well!! Best of luck and we are ALL here to listen if you ever need a pep talk. 🙂 I know I come on here frequently when I need that.

REG - Passed
BEC - Passed
AUD - Passed
FAR - Passed!!!! I have my life back.

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