Thoughts on dating co-workers?

  • Creator
    Topic
  • #199411
    Anonymous
    Inactive

    Pros and cons to dating co-workers?

    Especially at larger firms, you have the opportunity to meet many different people in different departments that you share interests with and can get to know really well going on lunch or even working together.

    Do you think it is a bad idea? Great idea? Is it against most company policies?

    Please share thoughts and experiences, thanks!

Viewing 15 replies - 1 through 15 (of 21 total)
  • Author
    Replies
  • #754206
    saemandr
    Participant

    terrible idea… unless you can guarantee that you will never be on the same jobs after you start dating and even then.. tons of firm gossip could cause issues.

    I've never dated someone that I've worked with, but I have witnessed it and majority of the time it just makes everything awkward for everyone… it's easy to leave emotion out of the work place when you're dealing with co-workers and friends.. but when they turn in to a significant other, it's a lot more difficult for people to leave emotion out of it

    REG - 73, 69 ugh
    AUD - 11/21/2015
    BEC - Jan 2015
    FAR - April 2015

    Becker Self Study/NINJA Audio/NINJA Flashcards

    #754207
    Chris
    Participant

    Don't get your honey where you make your money.

    NH CPA
    REG: 07/03/2014 - 88
    AUD: 08/30/2014 - 73 - Retake 10/16/14 - 86
    BEC: 05/31/2015 - 77
    FAR: 08/08/2015 - 64 - Retake 11/23/15 - 77

    Becker*NINJA Notes/MCQ*

    Now I could let these dream killers kill my self-esteem
    Or use my arrogance as the steam to power my dreams ~ Kanye West

    #754208
    Anonymous
    Inactive

    My opinion would vary based on how long-term you expect the job to be.

    If this is a 1-year job that you're already part-way through, and you're looking for a serious relationship that you fully anticipate will last longer than 1 year, then it's probably OK, provided it's within the rules of the workplace. However, be aware that you're at a great risk that your approaches will be unappreciated and you'll be reported for harassment, so move slowly and make sure you're both on the same page before moving forward. Also be absolutely certain it's allowed. Furthermore, best if the person is not a close associate (not on your team/in your department), and be aware that you will both likely be held back from any promotions that would make one or the other in a supervisory role that was above the other person's level.

    If this is a longer-term career job, then don't risk it. Just don't. Relationships usually don't last, and a break-up while you both work at the same job will create waaaaay more problems than getting together while you both work at the same job. I know initially you both really like each other and you think this one's “the one” and whatever, but it might not be, and it's not worth the risk. If you like them that much that you're that head-over-heels, then find a new job, and ask them out for coffee later.

    Full disclosure: I'm dating a guy I met at work. We started dating while we worked together. But, it was when we both worked at a grocery store. It was a short-term job, and I knew it. We became friends, and then it changed into a relationship, but our job was just a job, not a career. Five months into our relationship, I got a new job – not so much because we were dating, but just because it was a short-term job to start with, and its short-term was over and I was on to bigger and better things. Now it's years later and I'm into a career and we're still together – the relationship lasted way longer than the job for both of us. But, if I was single now, I wouldn't date someone at my current job, cause this job is a career job, and the risk is too great. Yes, I meet lots of nice people here, but a breakup here could leave me out of job and love, and that's not a good spot to be in. There's lots of people at work, but there's lots of people not at work, too, and you're better to find love from the not-at-work people.

    #754209
    fuzyfro89
    Participant

    So long as you follow the rules in the employee code, it won't cause any harm to you from a career perspective.

    Dating someone who you report to is a very tricky situation, and one you should avoid since it can be against many companies' policies.

    Pros? I don't know, getting laid in the bathroom? What exactly do you mean by pros of dating at work?

    Cons? Not much, so long as you're not doing something against policies. Some will gossip, but that's not much of a problem.

    #754210
    Anonymous
    Inactive

    i know two different big4 firm who have married partners. wife's in one department, husband in another. so im not sure how discouraged it really is. and thats jsut the 2 i happen to know im sure its like that throughout the big4. its one big frat party anyways. ive been to their holiday parties, everybody gets drunk and sleeps around.

    #754211
    Last Chance CPA
    Participant

    I will save @skynet a response. Only if they are hot 🙂

    FAR - 76
    AUD - 75
    BEC - 75
    REG - 76

    Now I need some experience!!! And some networking...

    #754212
    Last Chance CPA
    Participant

    But yes, life is short, date who you want. After college, it is much harder to find someone with similar interests anyways. Think marketing department 🙂 haha. Or go big – CEO!!!

    FAR - 76
    AUD - 75
    BEC - 75
    REG - 76

    Now I need some experience!!! And some networking...

    #754213
    Missy
    Participant

    First check your employee handbook. I don't care if 999 people here respond its ok, (for them) to date a coworker, if your company is the only one with a policy against it, its no.

    I think its a terrible idea fwiw,I know of very few couples who can have their lives intertwined professionally AND romantically and say that it works for them on every level. Besides god forbid it doesnt work out do you want to be running into your ex several times a week?

    Licensed Massachusetts Non Reporting CPA since 2012
    Finance/Admin/HR Manager

    #754214
    Anonymous
    Inactive

    What about mutual flings or casual hookups? The temptation is real I think at a Senior accountant level with new staff that comes on board. I think it's more acceptable and happens without professional consequence more often than people believe. At the end of the day, it appears to be an engage at your own risk type of thing if it's not directly against company policy.

    Also from what I've seen, many firms give very little regard for incoming new staff hires anyway. They get their basic training and can either sink or swim by any means they seem fit, including sucking up and engaging in these types of relationships to be more likable or gain influence/popularity at the office.

    Not denying it can complicate things at work for both people involved, but I think it is probably very common in the real world.

    #754215
    ScarletKnightCPA
    Participant

    Yeah do it, go nuts, why not? Live only once, enjoy the ride.

    Far: 76 (Wiley Test Bank)
    Aud: 77 (Wiley Test Bank)
    Reg: 61, 76 (Wiley book, Wiley Test Bank)
    Bec: 86 (Wiley Test Bank)

    MBA in progress

    #754216
    Anonymous
    Inactive

    Dang. It's been four hours ago and Skynet has not given his share on this thread yet.:)

    #754217
    alboreland
    Participant

    Someone will be enjoying the ride.

    #754218
    Skynet
    Participant

    What happens in the “Supply Closet” stays in the “Supply Closet.” And don't forget to clean up and disinfect after yourselves.

    #754219
    Jdn9201
    Participant

    It depends on how big the company is and to what degree you work with that person. I still lean no, but it's hard being single nowadays if you are a responsible and career-oriented person in an intense field where you spend more hours with your coworkers than you do with family. I know several people (my parents included) who met at work. I've seen some very messy situations though where relationships end amongst close coworkers, or people in the same department.

    BEC - 88 8/29/15
    REG - 82 11/14/15
    AUD - 83 1/8/16
    FAR - 80 2/29/16

    #754220
    y_u_no_pass
    Participant

    I met my fiance at work- we kept it a secret for over a year because he was paranoid about it. It wasn't bad except your performance isn't theirs and things can go wrong professionally too.
    So keep that in mind.

    Florida CPA!
    Took final exam 2/25/15.
    Sent in Application 3/12/15.
    Issued License 3/20/15.
    Used CPA Excel solely for all exams.

Viewing 15 replies - 1 through 15 (of 21 total)
  • The topic ‘Thoughts on dating co-workers?’ is closed to new replies.