[futuremdcpa]

After 2 long years.. she has broken up with me saying she’s unsure if she wants anything more serious with me (as in marriage), and that we argue a bit too much (which she has admitted its both of our faults). This couldn’t come at a worse time… I can’t concentrate on FAR. All I did today was watch a 3 hr lecture. Thats it. We are both accounting grads, and going for the CPA. She started work already a month ago (thats when our problems started). She would be at the metro around 10pm, and I would pick her up and take her home, where I would hang out with her and her family for an hour or so. She would be so exhausted that we would spend very little time together (which I am okay with). But she would snap at any little thing…

We went through everything together.. junior/senior year together, graduation, interviews, and a study abroad trip. life sucks. Thought I was going to marry this girl.. I guess not.

sorry for the off topic, just needed somewhere to vent.

REG: PASS || BEC: PASS || AUD: PASS || F: SCORE PENDING..

[Anonymous]

Sorry, bro. I know that feel.

BUT there is hope. Give it a few days. I think you're going to pull through this even stronger and finish this exam with the quickness.

My ex dumped me a week before my FAR exam. I was pretty bummed out and pissed but I did my best to focus on the exam to the best of my abilities. I passed FAR and have been on a role since then. She has tried her best to contact me (find me in the library) now that she's heard that I'm almost finished with the exam and on my way to dat bonus cash. I give her no attention anymore.

Another girl has come into my life and we have been dating for a few weeks now. It's been pretty great, but I leave in 1.5 months to start my career in a new city so we'll see how it plays out 🙁

[Anonymous]

@Mrs300 – That is SO weird! Girls have been telling me that my whole life! 😛

However, nothing compares to the fact that I don't think the father of any girl I've dated has liked me. Something about corrupting their little girl and whatnot…pfft. With one exception, my first serious girlfriend's dad was a bookie…nice guy! Used to take me fishing and talk about horse races…man I miss that guy. And my second serious girlfriend's dad bailed on them when they were kids sooo no dad to deal with!

[futuremdcpa]

Well she texted me saying its nothing I did, and that she loves me and she knows that much.. and that she doesn't know anymore and that its not fair to me… blown. So much for studying today. Looks like another day of doing nothing.

REG: PASS || BEC: PASS || AUD: PASS || F: SCORE PENDING..

[Anonymous]

This girl needs to stop messin with your head. She can't have her cake and eat it too…unless she's bullimic; but eating disorders aside, you need to lay down the law and be like, “look…you gave me some honesty and I appreciate that…but don't pull this waffling bullshit where you don't know what you want again. Maybe in time we can be friends, but for the time being, don't text me, e-mail me, hit me up on facebook, nada.”

[goodluck2everyone2]

this is the best advice I ever got in my life so I'll pass it on to you

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3hqAfFlpDmo

cool story bro

[Anonymous]

Kick her to the curb, future. She's just another girl.

Greener pastures for you in the future.

[futuremdcpa]

All this advice is so much easier said then done… I had so many plans with this girl.. so much traveling to do, christmas shopping, wrapping presents, thanksgiving dinners with families, late night movies and dinner..

I was going to go to Puerto Rico with my bonus for both of us if I passed within the 1 yr period. Now.. all that is gone down the drain. It just sucks because I feel like I will NEVER EVER find someone who is like her.. She honestly had every quality I was looking for in a future wife.. Nothing was missing. Nothing. This is why its so hard to let go.

REG: PASS || BEC: PASS || AUD: PASS || F: SCORE PENDING..

[Jessica527]

First, I am sorry and there is nothing we can say to make it better. I am lucky that I am married to another CPA hopeful, but trust me – marriage isn’t any easier when your spouse is going for his/her CPA. Just remember that this will all be over someday and we can all get back to normal life (haha normal?). One day a beautiful, talented woman will look at you as one of the most successful people she knows and will respect all the hard work you put into your career.

FAR - 68 (Gleim), 73 (Yaeger)
AUD - 74, 71 (Gleim)
BEC - ?
REG - ?

[futuremdcpa]

@ Jessica527 – Thank you.. I hope I will meet that girl one day. It's just sad. She told me last night the reason was because she felt like she couldn't give me what I needed.. as in spending 10 minutes a night with me after I pick her up from the metro around 11pm.. She comes home 11, and has to wake up 6am to get ready.. I told her its my decision on whether or not you give me what i need… but I guess she just wanted out.

Its really tough.. only because to me, she is the perfect girl. She had no problems, she was very honest, down to earth, liked every single thing I liked, we did stuff that we both liked together. We weren't too overly social, but we were social enough.. She was a good religious girl.. It just came out the blue. Im just so depressed.. I don't even know what to do. I try to open my FAR book but I can't.

It just hurts because shes everything I was looking for in a girl. Every single quality.

REG: PASS || BEC: PASS || AUD: PASS || F: SCORE PENDING..

[Anonymous]

That's not the real reason and you know it very well. You already mentioned the true reasons behind your separation in your beginning post.

Let me get one thing straight.

This girl is NOT unique.

There are many other good, down to earth, intelligent, funny, pretty, etc all in one, girls out there, trust me.

You're so young, you'll find the one.

Now, get your $**t together and finish your last exam!

[Anonymous]

My man,

I don't know why but these things seem to follow the CPA exam….death, losses of girlfriends/spouses/animals, job losses, broken teeth, etc.

Nothing I can say will make you feel better because now you lack the perspective to feel better. Only through putting some miles on the highway, so to speak, will you gain that perspective. I can only relay my personal experiences in life and this is no bull……

In every case, it took some radical (usually painful) change for the bad to move my stubborn self to a place where I was able to get the greatest blessings of my life. I didn't understand it at the time but something else bigger (in case of a job change) and better (in case of a girlfriend) was coming along. Case in point, I was laid off on the second day of my vacation last year–horrible timing right? Yep, unless you consider that on the second day of my vacation my boss was at a conference with every single upper Manager in our company and, upon receiving my email, went and told them he found the person he had been looking to hire for more than a year. Had it been before my vacation or after–I wouldn't have the job I have today. Since I was on vacation, I didn't even have a resume so I did the one positive, forward moving thing I could think of which was to call my previous boss. Had I been laid off a week before or after I probably would have been emailing resumes to Monster instead.

Give it a few weeks and you'll find this was a good thing. But for now, the only thing worse than losing her would be failing FAR because of it. So get your butt in gear friend!

[latexprimer]

Well now, at least you can relate to Jay-Z, since you got 99 problems but a B***h ain't one!

BECky - DONE
AUDry - DONE
REGgie - November 2012
FARah- TBD

[futuremdcpa]

@75 – Im not sure how I will find the one.. I mean Ill be studying for this exam until the beg. of October, and then Ill be working @ a Big 4 company all day everyday.. I just don't ever see myself finding someone who will be the one, and whose one I will be. With this girl I was so comfortable.. everything was routine. I would show up at her parents house and just relax there – even when shes at work.. and sleep over almost every other day. Everything was perfect.. but I guess not in her eyes. She says.. “i feel like this is what i need to do right now..” the f*** is that…

@CPApending – I agree. I always read on here about the breakups & deaths of CPA exam takers.. its an unfortunate curse. Wow I cant beleive you'd be laid off on your vacation. That really must of sucked when you heard the news. I am trying to concentrate on FAR, but its just hard.. I keep thinking of all the good times we had and all the good memories.. like I said before we did everything together for the past 2 years.. every single day. Thanksgiving, pumpkin patches, traveling to foreign countries, every class together for 2 years, studying for REG together in the library, christmas shopping, church every saturday, its just so hard to let go, and comprehend that it is the end. I keep telling myself maybe If I was a bit nicer? maybe if I just didnt talk about being married in the future so often.. I know its hard for people here to understand since they do not know us.. but I don't know If I will ever find someone quiet like her. We had such good chemistry.. she never really had a serious relationship before. Her longest maybe 2 months.. It just sucks. I keep telling myself maybe if we didn't major in accounting. Maybe if she still had her part time job, instead of a public accounting job we would still be together.. Life is very unfair at the moment. But I have had my friends tell me that its a blessing in disguise, that God has something better planned for me down the way.. I'm just having a hard time believing that right now at this point in time. I can't do anything without remembering her. Thank you for your kind words and wisdom though.. I am trying to plow through FAR reading.

REG: PASS || BEC: PASS || AUD: PASS || F: SCORE PENDING..

[jenuno01]

I also became single while studying for FAR. Difference is, I broke up with her. It was the best decision I've made in my life. @FutureMdcpa, don't worry man, you're still young! It may seem like the end of the world, but it's not. I love what @KatieKanton told you, best advice ever!

Class of 2012

[futuremdcpa]

I guess her job was to prepare me for something in the future thats even bigger and better. I truly believe shes one of Gods angels. She has saved me from a lot.. I was headed down a bad hill before I met her.. I would sleep around wayy to much. Then I met her. She changed me from getting STD's, geting introuble with the law.. and taught me how to be nice, how to be romantic, how to treat people. I guess I will forever be grateful for her. If she was the one I guess she wouldn't of found the need to leave me.

I guess after I get my CPA (within the next year hopefully), and starting work, I will meet a girl who will love me more then I loved this girl. Who will call me the one.. who will do nothing short of trying to make me happy, just as I will do for her. I guess change sucks.. and I don't like change.

Thank you guys… this has really been the only thing keeping me going the last few days from loosing my mind.. just logging in and reading everyones responses.

REG: PASS || BEC: PASS || AUD: PASS || F: SCORE PENDING..

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