[futuremdcpa]

After 2 long years.. she has broken up with me saying she’s unsure if she wants anything more serious with me (as in marriage), and that we argue a bit too much (which she has admitted its both of our faults). This couldn’t come at a worse time… I can’t concentrate on FAR. All I did today was watch a 3 hr lecture. Thats it. We are both accounting grads, and going for the CPA. She started work already a month ago (thats when our problems started). She would be at the metro around 10pm, and I would pick her up and take her home, where I would hang out with her and her family for an hour or so. She would be so exhausted that we would spend very little time together (which I am okay with). But she would snap at any little thing…

We went through everything together.. junior/senior year together, graduation, interviews, and a study abroad trip. life sucks. Thought I was going to marry this girl.. I guess not.

sorry for the off topic, just needed somewhere to vent.

REG: PASS || BEC: PASS || AUD: PASS || F: SCORE PENDING..

[futuremdcpa]

@BaseballCPA2 – We've been doing the whole breaking up/back together since maybe the 4th month of us dating. It sucked then and it sucks now. I just never thought she fully appreciated everything I did for her. I mean I did a great amount for her.. more then all the things i've ever done for any other girl combined.. I just can't wait to find that girl who will appreciate everything I do, and will feel the same about me as I do about her.

I started putting her stuff that she gave me away. All I have left to put away are two picture frames which in fact I will put away right now. What makes it the hardest is that she is so darn pretty! But that only gets a girl so far. I guess im only 24…still have a good amount of years before I need to settle down.

I guess your right though.. there is no point in wasting time.. it will only make things harder. If we never got back together after the first time we broke up in the 4th month.. things would be so much easier. Its really weird though. When I first saw her and met her.. I instantly connected with her and was so attracted with her.. I've never felt like that about anyone ever.. So this is what keeps throwing me off..

REG: PASS || BEC: PASS || AUD: PASS || F: SCORE PENDING..

[stefiva3]

Yes, katiekanton is right!! All we have to do right now is to focus on the passing the exams. Then we will all soon meet “the one”!!! :))

[stefiva3]

Agree with Baseball!!!!!

[mla1169]

I'm sorry you're hurting right now. Nothing except time will change that. However I will tell you the stress of these exams is NOTHING compared to stresses that come your way down the road when you've got a life together and have kids, a job loss, etc. if your relationship couldn't withstand the CPA exam, it would just have been something else that came between you, perhaps at a stage in life that makes it exponentially more difficult to deal with (like negotiating custody for kids). As awful as it is today, it would have been more so when the inevitable finally happened.

Take care of you, as someone who got divorced after 13 years of marriage and 2 kids, better days do come, eventually.

FAR- 77
AUD -49, 71, 84
REG -56,75!
BEC -75

Massachusetts CPA (non reporting) since 3/12.

[stefiva3]

@futuremdcpa, maybe you have been doing so much for her and that spoiled her. Same thing here, I have never been so nice to a guy before and he just took everything for granted. I actually felt stupid and felt like I was taken advantage of… Oh well, maybe I should just be glad this is over.

[TaxThreat]

^ I feel like I was being taken for granted too because honestly I am the awesomest GF ever! LOL Perhaps I will meet someone who will start spoiling me 🙂 And if not……well I have not been to Vegas yet!!!

REG - 7/2/12 - 88
BEC - 7/25/12 - 83
FAR - 10/01/12 - 86
AUD - 11/24/12 - 90
Ethics -DONE

[Sandra]

Bummer- I'm sorry you're feeling down.

I have to laugh though when I hear about someone at 24 worried about settling down. You are so right- you have lots of time! Im 30, no where near married and really ok with that. So many couples that I know 5-7 years ago that got married are already divorced. Take some time, get your life going in the direction you want and don't worry about it- the right one will come along. That person will appreciate you and vice versa and you guys can ride of into the sunset together.

In the meantime take a few days to mope. You seem pretty smart so I don't think not studying for a few days will be a huge deal for you. You have plenty of time. When you get back to it you can come at it with renewed motivation.

[stefiva3]

I am also waiting for that someone to spoil me.. hahahaa

[Anonymous]

Yeah, you're putting this girl on a pedestal. I don't care how hot a girl (edit: or guy) is, she's (edit: or he's) not worth that bullcrap…the sooner she (edit: or he) figures that out, the better off she'll (edit: or he'll) be. Trust me…there's plenty of other hot girls (edit: or guys) out there who will go for a ride on the “ol' bonecoaster” (forgive the crude Office Space reference), but ultimately, you want to be with someone who fulfills you as much as you fulfill her, regardless of looks. I'm not telling you to scope out the quasimodos of the world, but just don't put so much importance on looks. Some of the most profound women I've ever met in my life have been fairly average looking, however, with time and exposure into their personalities and intellect, they became more attractive to me than some of the skin-deep bombshells I've bedded.

But hey, sometimes what you need is a little meaningless sex to take your mind off the heartache. So “bang out” (pun intended) your issues with a couple floosies if it makes you feel better and move on to a woman who will challenge you emotionally, mentally, and physically.

EDIT: To avoid any notion that the BaseballCPA (yes, I'm a “the”) is sexist.

EDIT #2: Spend a lot of time on Cracked.com, Lamebook.com, TheOatmeal.com, TextsFromLastNight.com, and DamnYouAutoCorrect.com…you'll be laughing so hard, you won't be thinking about the sadness.

[Anonymous]

I think that you've all been given some really good advice in the he said/she said crap that we call relationships so I'm only going to add one thing… Living well is the best revenge. If he/she dumped you because they couldn't handle your study schedule or whatever lame a$$ reason they are blaming on this exam, then they aren't worth your time! Y'all are some of the most awesome people in the world! Realize that!!! You are a catch, damn it! Don't let them get in your way.

That being said, I'm gonna go kiss my husband and then get back to studying for BEC.

[futuremdcpa]

@mla1169 – I agree it really just sucks that the only thing that will heal this is time. I think it was a mixture between CPA & her job she just started which they work her till late at night. Its just a bad mix for us.. and I guess while I was OKAY dealing with it, she was not. Divorce is very hard, and I cannot even imagine how that would make anyone feel. I am very sad over 2 years! I cannot imagine 13 years, and 2 kids. You are a storng person. Thank you for your input 🙂

@stefiva3 – I think I was so infatuated with her that I wanted to make her happy. I would buy her chipotle, panera, and take it to her job sometimes. I would pick her up everyday and go where ever she wanted (because I would like to go to: movies, mall etc). If she needed help with her credit cards, 401ks, etc I would be the person to call and fix everything. I would randomly send her hallmark cards from their online store with personalized pictures, and writing. I sent her a scrapbook of all our pictures and graphics (turned out GREAT).. Anything she ever wanted I would buy it for her.. hell even 120$ perfume. DONE. I guess I didn't realize that she didn't receipricate it as well. She did do small things, but lately for the last 3-4 months.. I guess I didnt realize its been going down hill..

@TaxThreat – You will meet your person! 🙂 I hope one day I meet mine.. I can only wait anxiously.

@Sandra – Its funny.. up until I met this girl.. I kept telling everyone that I will never get married until I am 40+! Then I met her.. and everything changed.. I changed. The person I used to be for the past 22 years changed when I met her. I've become a better person. I guess I will just have to wait it out like you said, and wait for my “one” to ride into the sunset together. I guess the bright thing is now I have no distractions daily and can knock FAR down in a matter of 3 weeks or so, and go to the gym! I used to have some nice abs, big muscles.. when I started dating her I stopped going to the gym.. 2 years of no gym is not a good look for me!

@BaseballCPA2 – I didn't realize it until you mentioned it. I did infact put her on a pedestal. You are correct looks go away very fast, and looks are usually overshadowed by personality. You have a good personality you look GREAT, you have a bad personality.. not so great. I have slept around quiet too much, and I am trying to tone that down hahah.. Too many people out there with STD's! Im going after the CPA, not the STD haha. (lame i know). I guess I will be spending lots of time on those websites..

@Kricket – I TOTALLY agree! Everyone here has given some of the BEST advice I have ever received regarding relationships. I appreciate it everyone.. truly do.

Thank you everyone.. I honestly appreciate it. This threat made me feel a whole lot better.

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[Mrs 300]

Oh Baseball, you kill me. I am so entertained by your posts. I cannot believe that someone on an accounting Forum just advised someone else to “bang it out.” Too funny. You are definitely the man that momma told me to stay away from!

@Futuremd, I'm really sorry to hear what you are going through. It sucks, I know. And you know what, I have learned that there is never a “good” time for a break up. I dated a guy from age 19 – 23 (he was 2 years older) and I broke up with him during my 2nd semester of graduate school. I broke up with HIM and it was still extremely hard for me. He was a great guy (and I will still say that until this day) but I knew that we were not meant to be. We just had different interests and goals and different wants and needs in life. I couldn't focus or concentrate. I could NOT study. Actually, I felt like I couldn't do anything.

I agree 100% w/ mla. If the CPA exam or starting public accounting drove you guys apart, be thankful that it happened now. There are too many unexpected things that happen in life that you will have to endure, as a couple, that will be much more trying to your relationship than the cpa exam.

PS – how did AUD go? Do you think you passed?

REG - 80 (Becker only)
BEC - 76 (Becker only)
AUD - 71, 76 (Becker only)
FAR - 65, 74, 81! (Becker, Wiley Test Bank, Ninja notes & Audio)

CPA Class of 2012 🙂

[futuremdcpa]

Yeah I agree – @BaseballCPA2 saying bang it out made me laugh out loud. As far as AUD I studied 2.5 weeks, and I was a bit stressed during those times. I honestly did not think it was too bad as far as the MCQ's. The SIM's were OK, 2 of them were on a topic I hated, but I guessed on quiet a few boxes.. So hopefully it will be a 75! If not, not biggie I will spend 4 weeks doing nothing but reading & MCQ's and pass it by November!

The sad part is I was willing to deal with her and working late at night and not seeing her/texting/talking to her for a while during the weeks because of her job.. But I guess she couldn't handle it.. I would go to her house for an hr since I would pick her up, and she wouldn't really make an effort to sit next to me, or really anything nice.. She would just sit in front of the TV or her laptop.. I guess that should of been a sign 2 years ago when I first met her. She loves her reality TV. I don't blame her I love it too, but for goodness sakes.. You can spend 10 minutes talking with your bf who waits up every night to pick you up, and wakes up early every morning to pick you up and take you to the metro. I felt very unappreciated so many times. We would argue about that. I guess I will now focus on the gym & passing the CPA, then worry about my one true love! I am a hopeless romantic. Damn you romantic movies!!!!!!!!!!

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[TaxThreat]

FOREVER ALONE

REG - 7/2/12 - 88
BEC - 7/25/12 - 83
FAR - 10/01/12 - 86
AUD - 11/24/12 - 90
Ethics -DONE

[futuremdcpa]

I sure hope not hahaha.

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