[futuremdcpa]

After 2 long years.. she has broken up with me saying she’s unsure if she wants anything more serious with me (as in marriage), and that we argue a bit too much (which she has admitted its both of our faults). This couldn’t come at a worse time… I can’t concentrate on FAR. All I did today was watch a 3 hr lecture. Thats it. We are both accounting grads, and going for the CPA. She started work already a month ago (thats when our problems started). She would be at the metro around 10pm, and I would pick her up and take her home, where I would hang out with her and her family for an hour or so. She would be so exhausted that we would spend very little time together (which I am okay with). But she would snap at any little thing…

We went through everything together.. junior/senior year together, graduation, interviews, and a study abroad trip. life sucks. Thought I was going to marry this girl.. I guess not.

sorry for the off topic, just needed somewhere to vent.

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[stefiva3]

Sorry to hear that. My bf of 2 years also broke up with me while I was studying for FAR. I was so depressed for awhile and could not study at all. He is not an accounting major so I thought I should be going for someone who has similar career background next. That way, he would be more understanding for what I do, where my problems coming from, etc. But I guess it just depends. I also thought there would be a future for us, so when we broke up, it really hurt.

I hope you will get thru this hard time soon and get back on track with your studies. We are all here to support!!

[Anonymous]

Sorry, buddy. It's never easy when someone you really care about breaks up with you. I could sit here and write some long metaphor that culminates with “there's plenty of fish in the sea”, but instead, I'm going to say that I feel your pain, I'm sorry that this happened to you, and that as much as it SUCKS to hear this, time heals all wounds.

I promise that every night that you go to bed, you'll make up in the morning and the pain will ebb just a little bit more until you start to feel a bit happier. I went through a similar situation back in 2010 when I was studying for FAR. It was not easy. I hope you feel better, my man. Take the day off and get back on the horse tomorrow…let your pain drive your motivation to pass.

[futuremdcpa]

Thank you guys. I just feel like I have no one to talk too.. its tough.

@stefiva3 – It just hurts. We had so many plans together for the future.. a list of all the places to travel together, resturants to try, christmas shopping, thanksgiving, pumpkin patch picking.. It just hurts so bad. I've dated many, many girls.. but I felt like I was 100% sure this was the girl.. the one. It just hurts.

@BaseballCPA2 – That is true.. it does suck so badly.. and I know time will heal all wounds.. if only I could fast forward time. It really just all around sucks.. and it hurts so badly. I just feel completely lost.. she was the girl I was looking for all my life, and it was just done in an instant.. poof.. gone.

REG: PASS || BEC: PASS || AUD: PASS || F: SCORE PENDING..

[TaxThreat]

And today I join the club of “breaking-up while studying for FAR”! Oh boy…needless to say that my studies are not very productive

REG - 7/2/12 - 88
BEC - 7/25/12 - 83
FAR - 10/01/12 - 86
AUD - 11/24/12 - 90
Ethics -DONE

[stefiva3]

I totally feel your pain 🙁 It definitely hurts more when you think about those plans and promises… I have been there too… But as Baseball said, time will heal. I am also trying to recover… it has been very difficult for me and he is still on my mind every day. I also understand sometimes you just have to let it out. Having my friends be there listen to me definitely helped me a lot when I was having a hard time.

Stay positive!! I think once you get to start working, it will get better! (At least this was what my friends have been telling me, and I agree!!)

[stefiva3]

Seriously, why did FAR do that to us??????

[TaxThreat]

@stefiva3 really crappy timing! If only my ex bf knew how frustrating FAR is perhaps he could post-pone it till after the exam. I do think you right about things getting better once work starts (I start in October). It just feels a bit crazy right now since all I do is study all day and….Facebook stalk my ex! haha Wish I could take these past 3 years back 🙁

REG - 7/2/12 - 88
BEC - 7/25/12 - 83
FAR - 10/01/12 - 86
AUD - 11/24/12 - 90
Ethics -DONE

[Keely]

I got dumped three days before my AUD exam. Suuuuucked. Best advice I can give is take tomorrow off, then throw yourself into your studies as much as you can. You will kick yourself when you get your score back if you let this get the best of you. A long time ago, I once dropped out of college because I was broken up with and was so depressed, I didn't care about anything and refused to power through. I learned after that never to neglect what's important, even if you feel like you can't possibly concentrate or do well. Like Baseball said, everyday will get a little bit easier. Sorry this happened to you, but you will get through it, we all do.

BEC: (4/2012) 88
AUD: (5/2012) 91
REG: (8/2012) 82
FAR: (1/2013) 78 🙂

VA CPA #42010

[stefiva3]

@TaxThreat, except the facebook stalking part, we are pretty much doing and thinking the same thing!!!

I also wish my ex knew the frustrating FAR too!! It is so very annoying that he made it sound like CPA exams are so easy to pass? I now don't even express my frustrations with these exams to people who aren't going through or have been through them! I also start work in October! And I have been studying every day since late May till now! I am so sick of studying already…! Definitely wish I could have my 2 years back…haha

Good luck!!

[TaxThreat]

Dang I've been studying since late May too but now because of all this break-up BS i'm slacking on FAR and get super depressed just looking at the book. Gross nasty FAR.

REG - 7/2/12 - 88
BEC - 7/25/12 - 83
FAR - 10/01/12 - 86
AUD - 11/24/12 - 90
Ethics -DONE

[katiekanton]

@futuremdcpa

You said “she was the girl I was looking for all my life”. I don't think that's true. The girl you're looking for is looking for you too. “The one” won't leave, because you'll be her “the one”. Someday you'll thank this girl for freeing you up for the REAL “the one” that's out there right now, waiting for you.

I'm so happily married now to the most perfect guy in the world, and when I think about the guy that broke my heart so hard it took me YEARS to get over it, I don't think of him as the one that got away. I think of him as the one I wasted all that time with when my future husband just lived across town.

Timing sure does suck, though. I'm so sorry.

AUD - 88
FAR - 90
REG - 85
BEC - 88

[stefiva3]

I know!!! I slacked too and thought about rescheduling FAR. I am glad I didn't do it though and was still able to be on schedule.

Guys, we can all do this!!!!!!!!!!

[futuremdcpa]

Oh CPA exam why must you do this to us.. I swear, If we weren't accounting grads, having to study for the CPA/work long public accounting hours.. and worked a 9 to 5 job M-F, we'd all be better off. I guess you guys are right. I just need to power through this, and hopefully one day I will meet someone who is better suited to me. I always hated breakups. I would always avoid them.

It really sucks breaking up while studying. I just felt like giving up earlier today.. but then I thought about it.. I am only 24. I've dated too many girls, and I know what my type is. After I pass the CPA, work will be good, ill have a good carrer, and can focus on finding the girl for me.. even if it takes me until 30 years old (hopefully not)… but a lot can happen in 6 years. A LOT!

It's so funny though.. most of my relationships get screwed up between 1-2 years. Either I get bored, (when I was younger), or stress gets the best of us (more likely now). I think I found my perfect number of years to date a girl before deciding to get married… 1 to 2 years preferably two. I just feel like I will never find someone like her, who likes the things she does, who talks like her with her annoying voice (which I love), the way she looks (shes very cute).. SCREW YOU LIFE!

Good luck to all of us… its never fun being dumped esp. while working/studying/school. We will overcome this.. Thank you for all your support.. I appreciate it! 🙂

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[futuremdcpa]

@katiekanton – THANK YOU FOR THAT! I am honestly hoping and praying that it turns out that way for me. A part of me kept thinking that me being with her is preparing me for someone much greater, but I threw that idea out of my head, and was blinded by being infatuated. I just hate break ups in general. I got very attached to her family/her.. seeing her everyday/night.. texting her all the time, phone calls.. emails… cute fb msgs, mall shopping.. I just miss her. She is confused, she doesn't know what she wants.. She's always been like this with everything from picking her major, her clothes, her class schedule, to picking a movie at the theater to watch. Its unfortunate but I've always had a problem with that. I told her earlier today.. “I have a favor to ask you, i love you with everything I have, and I do want to get married.. if you don't feel the same please break up with me…” and I guess she didn't feel the same after two years (which I thought where wonderful).. so she said okay… and well thats that.

Hopefully I will have a cute story to tell people! All I keep telling myself is that I just need to pass this CPA exam, and my life will be uphill from there.. I love this support group!

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[Anonymous]

You made the right move. No point in wasting your time with someone who doesn't want the same things in life as you. You'll see the wisdom in your decision with time. Just don't ride the rollercoaster of “back together/broken up/back together/broken up”…it never works out and only delays the inevitable. Delete her from facebook, delete her number, and rid your surroundings of things that were given to you by her, etc. No need to put yourself through that right now.

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