[UCMCPA]

I. potentially. might have the option to move my start date up 6 months. Doing so will require me to move 900 miles far sooner than I expected.

A couple of negatives

– Getting married Apr 12, 2014 where I currently live

– I would have to finish my last two classes at school online

– I have a nice chunk of money saved for the move, I’m just worried about it being enough

– Fiance wouldn’t have a job as they don’t allow out of state transfers unless you have been with the company and she has only been there three months. However, she never has trouble finding work.

A few of the positives

-5k bonus to help ease the pain – assuming I pass the next two sections (+1k for exam fees)

– I will be eligible for a yearly bonus because I worked busy season

– I will be eligible for a prorated raise because I started mid-year

– The salary is a lot better than what I get now (I’m sure I will earn every dime)

– My school has said I can work at my own pace on my last two classes and they would extend them to the end of summer.

Assuming the firm will let me off for a few days to fly back and get married, I think I will do it. I work with PTP’s, so my busy season is mid-jan through the beginning of apr.

Any thoughts or things I should consider that you think I might be missing.

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BEC - 86

[Anonymous]

No advice, I just wanted to say I am also getting married on 4/12/2014! Congrats!

[Anonymous]

No advice, I just wanted to say I am also getting married on 4/12/2014! Congrats!

[neika822]

It's a big decision! You seem to want to move and hit the ground running!

I guess my only concern is what does your fiancee want to do? Are you completely uprooting her after you told her it would be 6 months later? If she's fully on-board, then your only set back is your wedding. As long as the firm knows you're going to be taking that as vacation, I don't see why not. If the wedding details are in place and there's not too many trips to take back and forth (for you or your fiancee), then go for it. Do you have a lot of support back home who can help wrap up the minor details?

Good luck!

R - *77*(02/'13)-Becker & NINJA
A - 71('11); *87*(04/'13)-Becker & NINJA
F - *76*(08/'13)-Becker & NINJA - "server upgrade" survivor
B - 60('11); *82*(10/'13) -Becker & NINA

DONE, DONE, AND DONE.

CPA in Massachusetts; issued 01/24/14

[neika822]

It's a big decision! You seem to want to move and hit the ground running!

I guess my only concern is what does your fiancee want to do? Are you completely uprooting her after you told her it would be 6 months later? If she's fully on-board, then your only set back is your wedding. As long as the firm knows you're going to be taking that as vacation, I don't see why not. If the wedding details are in place and there's not too many trips to take back and forth (for you or your fiancee), then go for it. Do you have a lot of support back home who can help wrap up the minor details?

Good luck!

R - *77*(02/'13)-Becker & NINJA
A - 71('11); *87*(04/'13)-Becker & NINJA
F - *76*(08/'13)-Becker & NINJA - "server upgrade" survivor
B - 60('11); *82*(10/'13) -Becker & NINA

DONE, DONE, AND DONE.

CPA in Massachusetts; issued 01/24/14

[wizards8507]

I would advise absolutely not. All the “math” makes sense but the wedding is the priory IMO. I was supposed to start in my job on 6/6/11 but I was getting married 7/9/11. I pushed my start date back to 8/1/11 and I wish I had pushed it further.

I'm confused when you say “let me off for a few days to fly back and get married.” It sounds like you're super casual about it like getting married isn't a big deal, almost like “BRBGETTINHITCHED.” Will there be a honeymoon? I had a destination wedding and took three weeks (one week prior in the location of the ceremony, plus a two-week honeymoon). I didn't want to do all that after only a few weeks of working because first impressions are very important. You want to show your face and bust your butt those first few months, not disappear for a week or more regardless of how good the reason.

NY CPA

[wizards8507]

I would advise absolutely not. All the “math” makes sense but the wedding is the priory IMO. I was supposed to start in my job on 6/6/11 but I was getting married 7/9/11. I pushed my start date back to 8/1/11 and I wish I had pushed it further.

I'm confused when you say “let me off for a few days to fly back and get married.” It sounds like you're super casual about it like getting married isn't a big deal, almost like “BRBGETTINHITCHED.” Will there be a honeymoon? I had a destination wedding and took three weeks (one week prior in the location of the ceremony, plus a two-week honeymoon). I didn't want to do all that after only a few weeks of working because first impressions are very important. You want to show your face and bust your butt those first few months, not disappear for a week or more regardless of how good the reason.

NY CPA

[smeech8000]

Agree with wiz – not a good idea. If it was a take-it-or-leave-it job offer that would be another thing (I would still recommend you pass), but doing this would get you off on the wrong foot both in your marriage and your career.

Question – how in the world did you decide on 4/12 for a wedding date? Probably because you figured you wouldn't be working at the time.

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A 99
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F 92

Becker Self-Study

OH CPA since 2/18/14

[smeech8000]

Agree with wiz – not a good idea. If it was a take-it-or-leave-it job offer that would be another thing (I would still recommend you pass), but doing this would get you off on the wrong foot both in your marriage and your career.

Question – how in the world did you decide on 4/12 for a wedding date? Probably because you figured you wouldn't be working at the time.

B 92
A 99
R 90
F 92

Becker Self-Study

OH CPA since 2/18/14

[UCMCPA]

The wedding date was set because it was one year after I proposed.

So far we already have most everything planned. We have our venue, her dress, the bridesmaids dresses, the photographer, my suit, the cake, we know who will be doing the food, our decorations are completed, her hair and makeup are lined up, guess list is done, invitations will be sent out in 3 weeks… it's almost completed. Everything that isn't completed her mom said she would help with. We won't take a honeymoon until ~1 year or so after, but if I start the job sooner, we might be able to take that in the summer a few months after our wedding, etc.

We were originally going to have our wedding well after my start date and after we saved, but her dad has had 3 strokes and multiple brain bleeds in the past year, so we pushed it up in hopes that he is still around. We never had a wedding/honeymoon planned together and my fiance is very frugal, if I remember right our excel sheet for the wedding comes out to 7k for EVERYTHING. I'm sure it will be closer to 8k if we end up having to fly back and forth…. basically, both of us think it's a waste of money to spend too much on a wedding. I originally almost had a courthouse wedding LOL. Darn the luck. .

As for my fiance, she is on board and said she is going wherever I go.

As for not wanting to disappear at the firm… we have another person starting in Jan that is taking two months off after busy season to sit for the exam; the firm has been very flexible.

FAR - 84
AUD - 94
REG - 86
BEC - 86

[UCMCPA]

The wedding date was set because it was one year after I proposed.

So far we already have most everything planned. We have our venue, her dress, the bridesmaids dresses, the photographer, my suit, the cake, we know who will be doing the food, our decorations are completed, her hair and makeup are lined up, guess list is done, invitations will be sent out in 3 weeks… it's almost completed. Everything that isn't completed her mom said she would help with. We won't take a honeymoon until ~1 year or so after, but if I start the job sooner, we might be able to take that in the summer a few months after our wedding, etc.

We were originally going to have our wedding well after my start date and after we saved, but her dad has had 3 strokes and multiple brain bleeds in the past year, so we pushed it up in hopes that he is still around. We never had a wedding/honeymoon planned together and my fiance is very frugal, if I remember right our excel sheet for the wedding comes out to 7k for EVERYTHING. I'm sure it will be closer to 8k if we end up having to fly back and forth…. basically, both of us think it's a waste of money to spend too much on a wedding. I originally almost had a courthouse wedding LOL. Darn the luck. .

As for my fiance, she is on board and said she is going wherever I go.

As for not wanting to disappear at the firm… we have another person starting in Jan that is taking two months off after busy season to sit for the exam; the firm has been very flexible.

FAR - 84
AUD - 94
REG - 86
BEC - 86

[wizards8507]

Eh, I still think I stick with my original advice. Unless you needed the money to put food on the table and/or keep the lights on, I'd take the extra time for the wedding. This is more wedding-related advice than career-related advice. Even if your wedding is as low-key as it can possibly get, it will inevitably end up being more stressful than you anticipated. Something WILL go wrong, it's just a matter of how severe.

Prayers for your fiancee and her father.

NY CPA

[wizards8507]

Eh, I still think I stick with my original advice. Unless you needed the money to put food on the table and/or keep the lights on, I'd take the extra time for the wedding. This is more wedding-related advice than career-related advice. Even if your wedding is as low-key as it can possibly get, it will inevitably end up being more stressful than you anticipated. Something WILL go wrong, it's just a matter of how severe.

Prayers for your fiancee and her father.

NY CPA

[UCMCPA]

I'm still leaning towards it, my current roommate moves out in December and I don't want to deal with finding another roommate that fits someone that I will live with lol.

I'm not too worried about something going wrong, but as you say, something will and it's only a matter of how severe.

Rather avoid having to take another semester of living expenses @ 6.8% as well. I'll sit down with all the facts and look at them again as I haven't fully committed either way just yet.

FAR - 84
AUD - 94
REG - 86
BEC - 86

[UCMCPA]

I'm still leaning towards it, my current roommate moves out in December and I don't want to deal with finding another roommate that fits someone that I will live with lol.

I'm not too worried about something going wrong, but as you say, something will and it's only a matter of how severe.

Rather avoid having to take another semester of living expenses @ 6.8% as well. I'll sit down with all the facts and look at them again as I haven't fully committed either way just yet.

FAR - 84
AUD - 94
REG - 86
BEC - 86

[UCMCPA]

Well, after a long discussion with my fiance this evening, it looks like she wants us to move early as long as the firm can cooperate.

FAR - 84
AUD - 94
REG - 86
BEC - 86

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