[jlondon]

Few months ago.. I talked about my tight schedule… so here it is now… The wedding day for one of my good friends in 2 days.. .and I’m Extremely nervous.. HELP!!! I think I have anxiety and very nervous.. I feel like I stutter a lot.. What should I do? any links to videos to help overcome this? etc..? tips? Things to talk about the groom?

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[005]

start the speech by… “geez, what a piece of ass he is marrying, am i right?!”

that'll go smoothly

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[mjp44]

Have a couple “G & Ts” before your speak and you should be good

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[Anonymous]

Just speak from the heart, and let it come naturally. I know that's cliche but that's how I get through speeches. Make sure you have a script, but don't be afraid to stray from it. The crowd won't even notice “mistakes” you make.

[Anonymous]

Thought this might help as an outline for you to develop your own personalized speech

The best man's speech is the last of the three traditional Wedding speeches at a wedding. He usually begins by recounting how he first met the groom and their relationship, followed by some insights about the groom and bride.

The best man is traditionally the official spokes man for the bridal party. In his speech, the best man will thank the the bride and groom on behalf of the bridal party, the bridesmaids and groomsmen.

The ‘best man' can talk about the groom's life, experiences, and qualities

Some tasteful jokes and anecdotes about the groom are usually welcome

Some details about the bride and groom, such as how they met

The best man proposes a toast to the newlyweds

Traditionally, as a finale, there is a reading of telegrams and cards from people unable to attend

The best man should be careful not to tell of colour jokes – this is best kept for the bucks night. Generally, if the bestman jokes about the groom it should be in a positive manner – remember, nobody wants to be publically laughed at.

[acamp]

1. Either don't drink or don't drink too much, might sound counter-intuitive for nerves, but once you get going the nerves will pass and a non-sloppy speaker will be talking to the guests

2. If you are going to try to come up with something funny/witty, run it past someone else first; just like professional standup comedians must practice and police their skit, so should you if you intend to go that route [if you're going to have a regular prepared speech, still might be a good idea to run it past someone].

3. Keep it short. Not awkwardly short “Hi I'm the Best Man, wow looks at these two, congrats, thank you” but pleasantly short, 3-5 minutes?

4. If all else fails refer to 005 and mjp44 above

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[Anonymous]

Definitely short and sweet. I agree with acamp's 3-5 minutes. I've been to a wedding were the best man went on and on and on and people just stopped paying attention. It was horrible.

My now brother-in-law was the best man at our wedding. His speech was one page. So not very long at all. And it was perfect.

Practice your speech to yourself, so you are comfortable with what you're going to be saying. It should help you be less nervous if you have already spoken your speech aloud before having to say it in front of a bunch of people.

Laughs are ok, but I wouldn't roast the groom. A lot of best men do, but I personally think it's better to leave that out of the speech. A wedding is about a couple who loves each other coming together, so I just don't see it as the right place to make fun of the groom. A non-offensive, family appropriate one-liner or so is perfectly acceptable – I just wouldn't go into it too much.

And just another quick note on speech length – my best friend of 20+ years was my maid of honor. She kept her speech to a page and a half and it had everyone's attention and left me crying because it meant so much to me. You don't have to go on and on to make an impression, and no one wants to listen to someone talk for 10 minutes. I recently sat through a 20 minute graduation speech and it was basically torture. Don't do that!! 🙂

[RedSoxFan77]

I agree with mjp44, have one or two strong drinks to calm the nerves.

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[Skynet]

Start with ” I remember when my friend here was trying to pick up ” insert name of fiancé”. I told him it was a bad idea. I told him “dude I think she's possessed by the devil with the veins on her face, the evil eyes, the sharp teeth, the smell, and the blood on her. Still though, he think she's hot and think he can make a good woman out of her. Even with all her tantrums especially when she gets mad and turns her head 360 degrees, floats in the air, and flips everything in the house upside down. There were days where coming to their home was like watching the “Exorcist” and “Insidious” together. Still he thinks she is a good woman. It was untill me, our others friends, and a Vatican Priest, and a one night Exorcism that she finally stop what she was doing was convinced what she was doing was ruining the relationship.” It was after all these trial and tribulations that we sit here today on the wedding of my friend and ” insert name of fiancé”.

[Kobe2422]

Best man rap the greatest

https://youtu.be/tPl8ZArZykU

[Hammer]

Here's how I started and I'm sure it can work for you. Start nice. Thank the bride and grooms parents for throwing the wedding and compliment the brides maids on how they look. Then open with this joke:

“So my original plan for this speech was to make it the most embarrassing three minutes of “groom's name's” life, but then I realized, the most embarrassing three minutes of “groom's name” life is what “brides name” now has to put up with on a nightly basis.”

I promise that will have the audience rollllling with laughter and calm you down for the rest of your speech.

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[Anonymous]

As far as nerves, my speech professor always told us to rehearse the speech start-to-finish at least 10 times before giving it so that we would be familiar enough with the content and our plans to not even really need the notes. This was quite helpful for nerves for most of our class. Granted, like most college kids, I wasn't always good and didn't always do it 10 times (I had a 5 minute walk to class, and sometimes that 5 minutes was the only time I practiced!) but I would recommend 10 times as a good goal for something like this. Do it in front of a mirror; do it while walking the dog; do it while driving down the road; just do it a few times so that you feel comfortable with your material before you do it in front of a crowd. (If you have family and friends that will listen to you give your speech to them, that can help with nerves, too!)

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