[Yaz88]

Hi everyone,

I really need some advice about taking the exam. Little background,

Started studying June 7th, and plan to take the exam August 7th. I am 90% done with studying FAR (my first exam ever), only the last 3 sections on Rogers then 2/3 weeks for review.

I went through hard hard times the last 3 days. On Thursday Night I had a fight with my GF, now EX, (2.8 years of relationship, we loved each other deeply), and ended up really bad!

I got stabbed by her on my arm and got 16 stitches (she was drunk, and had history of abusive relationships with men). I am in a very emotional wreck since the incident and I am doubting myself that I can carry on studying. I haven’t opened the book after what happened.

I am worried that I will lose focus from now till my exam, and ruin all the studying. contemplating to just push it back another time until I heal, but in the same time I don’t want to lose the time I spent already studying…. Very lost at the moment.

I am in need of your suggestions, experiences and thoughts on this. I know we can’t stop the drama sometimes but what’s the right thing to do here? Sad and hard to admi

[trish_1234]

So sorry. It's very difficult to study when ur mind is else where. But life is like that right. I had worse drama in the last year of my school and I chose to keep moving. My GPA dropped from 3.6 to 3.1 which sucks. But in ur case u only need 75 nobody will ask u if u got a or b …. Keep going if u fail u fail so what u sit it again and again and again if needed … Because as u may know already no matter how much u loved her in time it will be just a memory and less distractions, stay single take care of Urself and ur future first

AUD 69, 92 7/15 Gleim and Ninja test bank
FAR sometime in 10/15 Gleim
BEC not taken
REG not taken

[mommyof3texans]

I'm afraid it takes more than love to make a good relationship. Violence just isn't okay, ever. Use studying to keep your mind on something very positive in your life… this exam.. your career. Time has a way of providing perspective and healing. Take it one day at a time, even if you can only focus for a few minutes. Set small goals and keep at it. You will make it through this. You've come too far to stop now.

BEC - 02/21/15 - 82
FAR - 05/29/15 - 82
AUD - 07/09/15 - 93
REG - 11/14/15 - 80

All done!!!

[confusedcandidate]

My girlfriend of 5 years dumped me in February right before tax season. We had made serious future plans and I was just about to ask her to marry me. I've never been more hurt in my entire life and I was a complete mess for months – I'm still struggling now actually. I know exactly how you feel. If you had asked me right then when it happened to sit down and study, or take a 4 hour test, I would have just cried and drunk half a bottle of Jack instead. There's no magic answer I'm afraid 🙁 All I can suggest is that you suppress every single thought and feeling, just physically shove it to the back of your mind, concentrate on work and studying for two weeks, and then let it all out the second you walk out of your exam. Feel free to contact me if you want to talk about it with an anonymous internet stranger 🙂

Weekends are meaningless to a CPA candidate

[12tang]

Life can be a real asshole sometimes. I have had some real hard times as well and I will share with you what worked for me.

Find something that will keep you busy to keep your mind off whatever it is in your life that is bringing you down. The CPA is a really good thing that will keep you busy. I know you feel it will be hard to study with your mind wandering but it gets easier as time passes and the more detached you are from that negative in your life. Now, because the CPA can bring on it's own stress, I will now recommend the following…

Pick an exercise routine to help clear your mind and de-stress you. If you can't stand biking, running or things that get your heart pumping, then go on walks everyday. Listen to all your favorite music as you do this! Exercise is vital to a healthy mental attitude. It's been known to bring people out of depression.

Treat yourself for any mini goals you accomplish. These mini goals should be tied to things that are a positive in your life. Breaking a new running record for example. When you treat yourself, you're reinforcing these positives in your life and that's a good thing.

Adopt a somewhat healthy diet. Not saying go all out and torture yourself. Just the obvious, like staying away from excess alcohol and junk food. The human body needs proper nourishment to stay healthy, both mentally and physically. I try to at a MINIMUM, drink a glass of tomato juice a day. SOMETHING, better than nothing!

Take the test as scheduled if you can stay on track with studying. If you don't pass, that's okay! You tried and that's all that ever matters! You become a stronger person from hiccups in life and the CPA or your GF problems are no exception. You WILL prevail! You WILL become stronger! I promise!

Using Becker self-study
FAR: (82) 175 hours - 1st attempt
BEC: (XX)
AUD: (69) 45hrs of study - 1st attempt
REG: (XX)

[Missy]

I think we've all survived difficult break ups but you've also been physically attacked and that's completely different. No advice but if it should start to feel overwhelming to you please see a therapist. PTSD and other affects of such an event shouldn't be underestimated. Not saying you won't bounce right back, you very well might but this isn't your typical stay busy and get over it situation.

Licensed Massachusetts Non Reporting CPA since 2012
Finance/Admin/HR Manager

[12tang]

Mia could be right as well. It really depends on how you handle stress. I have lost some friends due to PTSD from the Iraq war. I know first hand all to well, that how an individual deals with stress is entirely unique to that particular individual. Some walk on from it without any help while others can't…

For me personally, I heal when I keep myself busy and work on myself. I drop people out of my life except for close friends and family and I just do me!

Do what feels right in your heart bud. None of us can tell you what the right answer is but we can only offer our advice.

Using Becker self-study
FAR: (82) 175 hours - 1st attempt
BEC: (XX)
AUD: (69) 45hrs of study - 1st attempt
REG: (XX)

[trish_1234]

Mla is wise. Get some concealing if needed and whatever u do don't drink. Drink is always a bad idea when ur not in the right place or any other altering substances. With that being said don't sit at home crying alone stay busy or around family

AUD 69, 92 7/15 Gleim and Ninja test bank
FAR sometime in 10/15 Gleim
BEC not taken
REG not taken

[Tncincy]

Well fortunately you have another 71 ninja's to encourage you. But we can't encourage you to do nothing you do not want to do. If you want to finish studying and take the test go for it. If you pass great, if not sign up again. Girl friend need to be charged with assault….don't want to press charges? then cut her loose. She needs help….really not being malicious. She really needs help, but as for you. you need help going on with your life. the cpa exam can help you do it. Don't be fraid to get help like Mia said, but don't be afraid to accept that it is time to go on. You're human, the situation hurts, no one is blaming you if you simply need time…..time heal all wounds and wounds heal in time.

Best of luck to you and we hope to hear a positive update in the future.. Many prayers for your situation.

It begins with a 75
Been here too long as a cheerleader....ready to pass

[Anonymous]

The only class I ever failed/dropped in college was because of a break up. Get back on it as soon as you are able so you don't forget too much, but allow yourself time to heal (mentally and physically).

Whatever you do, NEVER EVER EVER EVER (I MEAN EVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!) get back with her. Yes, we all make mistakes, but physical violence should have a zero tolerance. If she did it once, she is capable of doing it again (and her history has proven that further). No matter how great your relationship was, she has permanently ended it. You deserve to be with someone who would not choose to harm you, no matter how angry she gets. Life is tough, we all end up in situations that drive us crazy; most of us get through it (one way or another) without violence.

And yes, I don't care what you did or what led up to this, I hope you press charges. You can't expect to just go around stabbing people without serious legal consequences. This will also shift the power to where you do not feel like a victim, and can feel empowered about it. I had issues in the past which caused me PTSD symptoms, and seeing a lawyer honestly changed my perspective immediately. I walked in feeling sad and victimized, walked out feeling strong and in control. Pressing charges says to the world (and to yourself) that you deserve a minimum level of respect at all times, and you are worth more than how one crazy person chooses to treat you.

Hang in there.

[Gabriella]

Ok listen, this advice works. You absolutely must stay No Contact. No texting no calling no social media checking. Delete and block. Yes it stings but this is the only way to heal. Delete her from your phone. Have a buddy pick up your personal stuff from her place.

Take the exam anyway! Failing is not the end of the world. There's also a chance you will pass!

[Jim Deal]

I would seek counseling immediately with a professional (not the internet). These people have not been intentionally stabbed by their loved ones and have no clue what they are talking about. Don't think about this exam until you have found your center again.

Rescheduling is no big deal. I pushed my first exam back not once but twice while helping my sister through her cancer diagnosis and first rounds of chemo treatment. I have no regrets and was able to fully devote myself back to studying once I knew she was taken care of. Much of what I studied was still there and just required a day or two of review to jog my memory.

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