[ThirdTimesACharm]

My boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me Saturday…it’s devastating. I found out, on my third attempt at this stupid exam, that I passed reg on 12.7.

I’ve paid for all sections to avoid the application fee. I want this so much. But since Saturday anytime I’m not at work I can’t find the motivation to study. Has anyone else had a similar experience? Any tips? I can’t let this ruin my professional goals.

REG 80 11/23
FAR 1/2016
BEC 2/2016*
AUD 4/2016*

*If all goes well!

[Larry]

I'm sorry to hear about that. It's hard to do anything after a break up. What I can tell you is that you definitely need a support system because all you're going to be doing is spending your free time to study. If you want to save your relationship, then you'll need to know how to balance your study time and your boyfriend. You passed one section so you have 18 months to pass the other 3. That should give you the motivation. Yes, 18 months seems a long time but trust me, it comes up quick because of the black out months.

Keep your chin up.

REG - 82
FAR - 78
BEC - 76
AUD - 8/27/16

[12tang]

Sorry to hear that. Use this time to work on yourself. This is a time for you, not him. I encourage you to stay single until you at the very least, pass these exams. I've been avoiding dates until I pass. There's just no time for it.

Strengthen all that is great within you (if you made it this far, there's a lot) and I promise, you'll be much happier! Think about the letters, CPA next your name. 🙂 🙂 🙂 There will be a time for guys again, just don't let them get in your way until you're a CPA!

Using Becker self-study
FAR: (82) 175 hours - 1st attempt
BEC: (XX)
AUD: (69) 45hrs of study - 1st attempt
REG: (XX)

[He3Miner]

Sorry to hear…its always hard. But its in these times that you truly grow the most, learn about yourself the most, give to yourself the most. This is time for your growth into being the person you will become and want to become.

The CPA process is not easy and its not a measure of how smart you are but a measure of your will to succeed. I would agree with 12tang and stay single and work on making you into who YOU want yourself to become. I think a big mistake some people make (maybe because they are used to not being alone or used to being in a relationship) is to get into another situation too soon and not give themselves enough time to better understand themselves outside the dynamic of being in a relationship.

Maybe one day long from now when you are a CPA, in a different life situation, you will look back at this very moment and realize that it was the best thing to have happened to you. Years ago, I got divorced after 12 years of marriage and it was a very hard time and I could never have imagined then where I would be now. But looking back, it truly was the best thing that could have happened to me given what I was going through. So don't waste this opportunity to grow because if you want this, you will have it…Go get it!!!

[hasy]

I need to show you my post about when I asked for motivation. I know I'm speaking from a single's perspective but if he left you because you were busy trying to IMPROVE your life, then it's better off. Be with someone who can make you better.

I got laid off twice this year, with the second lay-off last month, and I found out that I passed BEC. Now I'm taking on FAR and REG before 4/28/16 because I didn't want to waste an application fee. So let's support each other on this road before the 2017 changes take place. We can do it!

Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved - Helen Keller

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BEC 80 (10/23/15)
FAR 72 (4/2/15); 83 (7/11/16)
REG 52 (4/28/15)
AUD (9/9/16)

Roger + NINJA MCQ + WTB

[lswang]

Don't let the breakup get to you. It's obviously hard now, like with any breakup, but a couple years from now you can either

1) Be a CPA in a brand new fun and exciting relationship or

2) Not have your license and not have time to look for that fun, new relationship.

Which situation would you rather be in? My sister got broken up with 2 weeks before her MCAT. Yes, two weeks. The jackass couldn't do her the favor of waiting two weeks as to not potentially ruin one of the biggest exams of her life. She was absolutely devastated. She kicked ass anyway on it, and now she's in her last year of med school with an amazing boyfriend who is in her class. Things will get better. Focus on what's good for you.

FAR | 81 - July 21 15
REG | 66 - Oct 1 15 | 87 - Jan 7 16
AUD | 90 - Oct 29 15
BEC | 86 - Nov 25 15

[Marcus]

Going through this exam I went through the exact same thing. My serious gf at first she pretended to give me all the time I needed, but slowly as I shifted focus to the exam, she started to not be so friendly towards the end. So in the july/aug test window not only did I not study enough for AUD and BEC, she broke up w/ me the day I took BEC, breakup over the phone yeah I know, lame. Thankfully I passed BEC, but failed aud for the third time in that test window. So in sept in the blackout month I had to literally get my mind out of the gutter it was in. And she was like a drug to me, I fb stalked for a while and tried to see if she posted any online data profiles, but the more I mirco ed in on things the more upset I got. So I told myself to man up and I dont have time to stalk when I got a plate full of AUD to get through for a fourth time. Eventually I had to find little things to motivate me, like venting to friends or hyping my self up with batman quotes. Its def hard after work, b/c everyone wants to socialize during down time. But stay focused and remember whats at the end of the tunnel.

[Missy]

I'm so sorry about your breakup.

You need to treat this like you treat your job. As devastating as the end of a long term relationship is, you never see anyone say “I just got divorced and haven't gone to work in 6 weeks………..”. You take a deep breath and go because it needs to be done. Same with the exams, you don't have to want to study or be in the mood you just do it.

Studying can be a great distraction, at the end of the day do you want to spend the hours lamenting the past, or working toward the future?

Licensed Massachusetts Non Reporting CPA since 2012
Finance/Admin/HR Manager

[ThirdTimesACharm]

Thank you all for your kind words and advice. This is exactly the kick in the butt I needed. Life goes on. He may not be a part of my life anymore, but the CPA will!

REG 80 11/23
FAR 1/2016
BEC 2/2016*
AUD 4/2016*

*If all goes well!

[Vanessachy]

I think it is probably the best time for you to study. When you have a relationship, you need to pay more attention to your boyfriend, now you will have time for yourself.

Far 10/26/2015, 64, 1/4/2016, 82
Reg 7/10/2015, 60, 2/27/2016, 86
Aud, 5/9/2016, 74 (ouch), 7/26/2016, I cannot wait to take this test again
Bec, 6/10/2016, 70,9/8 retake

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