[GettingMyCPA]

Why do men feel the need when I ask them a question to look at the 1st year employee and respond them? Hello! *I* asked the question. I really don’t know if it was because I am a woman or if it was because I look young, and to be honest it shouldn’t matter, both are just as offending. Now I am so upset about how I was treated that I can’t focus on studying, which just upsets me more that I even let him upset me.

/rant over

Going to try to get finish Not-for Profit accounting questions now, Grrrr

FAR - July 3
AUD - Aug 17

[unDeR]

What…?

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[littlenumberrobot]

“Why do men feel the need when I ask them a question to look at the 1st year employee and respond them”

What level are you? And are the 1st years male also? Does this happen alot?

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[Anonymous]

@unDeR thats what i was about to post ..lol

[GettingMyCPA]

I am a female lead auditor, who has 15+ years of auditing/accounting experience.

Yes this happens to be a lot. I always have to PROVE myself. It's frustrating and quite frankly I am tired of HAVING to do it all the time. I was just ranting yesterday, because I was just tired of this happening yet again. Can't people just put looks aside upon meeting you and just judge you upon what comes out of your mouth instead?

By the way, this NEVER happens out on an audit, this typically happens with people who are not familiar with me.

I don't know how to deal with it when it happens without looking like a witch with a capital b. Do I stand up and bob my head around to make sure he responds to me, should I just stand up and wave my hands over my head and say “Can you respond to me since I asked the question?”. Should I just answer when he asks my co-worker “Does this answer your question?” since I asked the question in the first place. Or do I just sit back and let him disregard me and talk over me the entire time I ask questions?

Are there any other women out there who have these sort of things happen, and if so, how do you handle them?

I was just more upset that I let this effect my studying last night.

FAR - July 3
AUD - Aug 17

[lateralus ag]

Hmmm. That's interesting. I know that in banking (my previous career) males dominated the c-level offices and did this a lot to some of the women I worked with. Some men are threatened by intelligent women. Some men think women are stupid. Some men think women belong at home….the list goes on.

Some PEOPLE have bad social skills. Who knows what the problem is, but one this is certain, it's HIS problem.

Frankly speaking, I would ask him about it, appropriately and politely. I bet he will say he didn't realize he does that.

I do stuff I don't realize I do all the time til my wife points it out. Then I do what I can to change my behavior. Sometimes that's all it takes.

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[Tux]

Yes, I do believe you should speak up about it in some way. That's the only way that you'll gain respect.

BUT, it's very important to “kill 'em with kindness”.

You can point out the offensive in an extremely nice and direct way. Practice what you could or would say in advance, so that you'll be prepared the next time it happens.

You can either say “I'm sure you didn't realize it, but I asked a question and you answered it to this other person. I'd like to ask that you respond to me”…….or……. “to prevent any mis-communication, may I ask that you respond to me, so that I know you're answering my question.”

You can also find a way to say it jokingly and laugh while you say, “Wait. Were you answering my question? That's funny. I asked blah, blah, blah, then you answered it to this other person. Ha! I wasn't sure if you were talking to me or not.”

That's more of an indirect way to point out to them what they are doing, so hopefully, they'll notice it next time. Then, do the same thing again, if it keeps happening.

Hopefully, they will feel as stupid as they are acting, and will finally learn a lesson.

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[GettingMyCPA]

Those are both really good ideas, and it does put things more into perspective. I will practice those with my husband so I don't come off rude.

Thanks again,

FAR - July 3
AUD - Aug 17

[mla1169]

Are your questions being answered? Honestly if I were getting my answers I really wouldn't focus on whom the responder was addressing. I am also a female, have over 20 years professional experience and as long as I am getting what *I* need, I am satisfied. Can you ask the same questions without other people present so the responder can't ignore you? Does this persons opinion affect your raises and promotions? I'm sure he looks the fool to the people who didn't ask a question, too.

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