[Anonymous]

Anyone have an idea on how to get a girlfriend (with a low IQ) who cannot see the light at the end of a tunnel to understand why I need to study every second of the day?

I’m to the point where I just want to say “No I do not want to sit around watch the E! channel with you”

She’s like “When are you going to come over and hang out?” and by hang out I mean, literally, sitting there and watching TV. I hate TV with a passion as most of the stuff she watches is complete garbage. Should I just start sending myself my notes on my iPhone and studying my notes while I’m sitting there “hanging out”?

I want to strangle her sometimes…damn…

[unDeR]

It's time to pump and dump, pass the CPA exam, then roll into your local Mercedez dealer and trade up to a new model. This one is clearly beginning to show its age. No ride is worth that much trouble.

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[Elaine]

If you say you and your girl “will probably be together for life,” then there will be countless more times where you will be watching TV with her. And you say you hate TV with a passion….. hmmm. Just sayin'.

Have you sat down and talked to her about how important this exam is to you?

[Anonymous]

Ya I don't get how you can claim that you “will probably be together for life”. It sounds like you're already struggling to do just the regular relationship things while also saying she has a “low IQ”. Yet, you're already planning to marry her. First, I hate to say it because it doesn't even sound like you deserve her but it sounds like, in your opinion, you're settling. But, second, with the way you treat her, you're the one who's probably going to be dumped.

[Anonymous]

Hmmm, I'm going to risk getting called “weird and old again”, but I've been around a little longer than you. In fact I'm probably old enough to be your mother, but enough of that. I want to start off by saying that I'm not trying to stir crap, or instigate anything. I'm too tired for that nonsense. A question was posted and I'm just putting in my opinion. Nothing that I say is meant to insult anyone or hurt anyone's feelings.

Here is how this he said/she said crap usually works out…

1. Mutual attraction

2. Possibly jump into a physical relationship too soon and damn it's good

3. Figure out you have NOTHING in common

4. Fight/bicker/argue a lot

5. Get married anyway thinking this is going to solve some problems

6. Figure out it didn't solve problems but created a whole new set of them

7. Start wondering “Was I on crack at the wedding? Not only do I not have anything in common with this person, I'm not sure I even like them.”

8. Divorce proceedings begin and you get to fight over 1/2 of each others stuff. Hopefully, no kids are involved.

9. Both stay single for a while and try to straighten out the financial mess that divorce inevitably creates.

10. Each finds someone that has similar interests, financial habits, morals, goals, standards and dreams for the future.

11. They each live happily ever after without each other.

Now I'm not saying this is going to happen to the OP but I've seen this play out with friends and family, myself included, too many times. Ask yourself “What do we have in common? Why do I love her? Her looks? Her smile? Am I here because I feel like I'm expected to be?” You have to do what is best for you, and in the long run, for her. I'm not saying dump her or anything like that. But I do think it's time the two of you sat down and had a serious conversation about the future and what you both want and need to live happy, healthy, productive lives without any drama. Life is too damn short to be unhappy! Good Luck to you both and I really mean that.

[Jeremy]

In regards to step #8, it's much easier to give her (in my case) everything and just take the few things that actually mean something. It keeps things from getting to protracted and makes things much easier. My only regret is not getting the dog.

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[qnx688]

I think everyone on here has been in a comparable situation. In my experience, most people simply cant identify with out situation. You just have to do the best you can to get it across to them, and if they still wont accept it you have to fight on. If she really cares for you, she will get the picture, and it probably wont hurt to explain to her she will benefit from your success as well. On a side note, I am not a big fan of TV myself, but you need to give Boardwalk Empire a shot. Best show ever.

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[ReneeNC]

@mla1169…I have the same type of relationship. He's a manual labor, redneck-ish, TV watching, non-book reading, smart aleck man. I'm more…refined? I have a much higher education level, higher intelligence (he'll even tell you that), put a MUCH higher value on education, and I hate TV.

We just had our 15th wedding anniversary a few weeks ago. It works. He tolerates my studying because to him, CPA=more money. LOL

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[Anonymous]

@Jeremy – The dog was mine to begin with, a silver Chow Chow, and he hated my ex. I should have taken the hint. The dog was obviously a much better judge of character. I let the ex have what I wanted him to have and then hauled his drunk a$$ back to his mother's house. So #8 didn't apply to me really.

@Renee and mla – My husband is an electrician so I completely understand where you are coming from. I also don't watch TV. I just don't have time. Hubby sees a CPA license as his license to RETIRE! Isn't he cute? LOL

[mla1169]

I still tell my husband to this day that if I hadn't written his final term paper in High School (the scarlet letter, and yeah we got an A) he never would have graduated 😉

BUT that said, theres never been a better Daddy in the history of Daddies than this man. Makes him damn sexy to me!

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[msgolds]

A word came to mind while reading the O.P's comments… and the second syllable is “bag.” What kind of woman would put up with a boyfriend who talked about her like that?

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[Anonymous]

@msgolds – I think he was just frustrated when he wrote the post. I'm gonna give him a pass on his comment because heaven knows I've called my husband everything but a child of God when I have been mad at him. Most of us say things we don't mean when we are upset.

[kham619]

Dude,

If that were my GF and she does not understand the importance of this exam and is obviously not too supportive, then I would dump her. Her values and priorities are stuck in high school and that is annoying and childish.

Good luck w/ that.

[msgolds]

@Kricket, you're right. I spoke out of line, and apologize to the OP. My gf has been very supportive throughout the process, but I understand how stressful having an unsupportive significant other can be. It just seemed to me that the wording indicated a general lack of mutual respect.

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[TheCPAJourney]

Not another girlfriend thread.I repeat..get rid of her and find another CPA chick.I found mine..,.you will find yours.

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