[Anonymous]

Not long time ago, my cousin, who was taking a 2-day board exam in nursing, got a bad news from a family member after the first day of his test. He still managed to finish the entire test in that weekend. When the scores were released, he failed by merely 3 points. His grades show he passed all the parts on the first day and flanked most of the other parts on the second day. This tells us, he got sidetracked by the bad news which he heard and tremendously affected his performance the following day.

Here is my case. I am taking my FAR test in 6 days upon receiving the bad news about my sick 77-year old mother. Though she has no any major health issues, she’s been very sickly for insomnia and dizziness in the last 10 months. The doctor said it’s all due to old age. One day she fell in the bathroom and got hurt pretty bad. That’s when she started to need support to be able to walk. She was advised to just be in a wheelchair to keep her from falling again. She’s been in and out of the hospital for old age health problems. My eldest sister is taking care of her in the Philippines. Last week, she was recently discharged of the community hospital with nasogastric intubation for not being able to eat food and drink. She cannot see any more with her one eye. Last night was the first time I saw how my mother looks like in a picture, which my son showed me via FB. IT BROKE MY HEART. She is no longer moving and responding. People need to gently move her left and right of her bed once in a while to keep her from bedsores.

How do I tough this out? I’ve already laid out my study plan this week. I took time off from work this week, except Tuesday. I knew I would be able accomplish my study goals until I heard such bad news.

I need motivation from you people, current and future CPAs of A71 family. I know I am tough. Many people think I am tough. I am a bereaved Mom myself, however I am able to tough it out by the God’s grace every single day.

This is a new different crisis I am dealing now, a crisis of the unknown. While my mother is dying for her life now, I am going to face FAR, the beast (for the 3rd time) in the next few days.

[Lindrobe]

@Amor D, I am so sorry for what you are going through. I had a situation my last year of college that kind of reminds me of it some. My dad was a police officer and was killed in the line of duty in between my first and second semester of my senior year. My father was single but lived with a long time girlfriend, and I was 21 years old, so I was left to deal with a very messy estate and all of the other stuff that comes with a police officer being killed. The thought of going back for my last semester in January was so overwhelming and I almost dropped all of my classes that semester. I didn't, but it took my about 2 times as long to study and do my schoolwork as it normally would. I am not telling you this story to make me feel bad for me, but just because I can relate to what you are going through. You will need to dig deep and keep in mind that your mom would want you to do your best on your exams and will be so proud of you when you pass. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Be strong.

FAR 12/3/14, 87
AUD 2/3/14, 90
BEC 4/1/14, 88
REG 5/27/14, 94

Licensed CPA, Indiana

"Successful people do things that unsuccessful people don't want to do"

[Lindrobe]

@Amor D, I am so sorry for what you are going through. I had a situation my last year of college that kind of reminds me of it some. My dad was a police officer and was killed in the line of duty in between my first and second semester of my senior year. My father was single but lived with a long time girlfriend, and I was 21 years old, so I was left to deal with a very messy estate and all of the other stuff that comes with a police officer being killed. The thought of going back for my last semester in January was so overwhelming and I almost dropped all of my classes that semester. I didn't, but it took my about 2 times as long to study and do my schoolwork as it normally would. I am not telling you this story to make me feel bad for me, but just because I can relate to what you are going through. You will need to dig deep and keep in mind that your mom would want you to do your best on your exams and will be so proud of you when you pass. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Be strong.

FAR 12/3/14, 87
AUD 2/3/14, 90
BEC 4/1/14, 88
REG 5/27/14, 94

Licensed CPA, Indiana

"Successful people do things that unsuccessful people don't want to do"

[Kimboroni]

Amor, my heart goes out to you. It sounds like you are tough like your mother– she is fighting, and so can you. You've got this– you can do this.

AUD 84 (1/9/14-Wiley books/TB + free materials)
FAR 83 (5/21/14-the above + NINJA 10 Pt Combo Lite)
REG 84 (7/9/14-Wiley books/TB + NINJA Audio/FC/Notes)
BEC 76 (10/5/14-Wiley books/TB + NINJA Audio/FC)

Disclaimer: My ninja avatar is not meant to imply that I have any affiliation with this site other than being a forum member. That's a pic of a T-shirt that my daughter gave me for my birthday. 🙂

[Kimboroni]

Amor, my heart goes out to you. It sounds like you are tough like your mother– she is fighting, and so can you. You've got this– you can do this.

AUD 84 (1/9/14-Wiley books/TB + free materials)
FAR 83 (5/21/14-the above + NINJA 10 Pt Combo Lite)
REG 84 (7/9/14-Wiley books/TB + NINJA Audio/FC/Notes)
BEC 76 (10/5/14-Wiley books/TB + NINJA Audio/FC)

Disclaimer: My ninja avatar is not meant to imply that I have any affiliation with this site other than being a forum member. That's a pic of a T-shirt that my daughter gave me for my birthday. 🙂

[Anonymous]

I mean its all about whats important to you, if its important to you to be with her then be with her. If its more important you pass the CPA then do that. Everyone's got their own priorities. My situation was during the football season a couple years i had a sister who had cancer for awhile and during one of my games she took a turn for the worst. She was put on a respirator and my parents told me about it after the game. So i drove home Sunday morning to be with her then drove back to school monday night for classes and practice. Thursday she ended up passing away so i drove home thursday and her funeral was friday. Then drove to be with the team a couple hours after the funeral to prepare my self for the game. It's all about whats important to you and what was important to the person. My sister would never want me to miss a football game because of something related to her so i gave her all the attention i could and i honored her in the game. So it's all about what you think is best.

[Anonymous]

I mean its all about whats important to you, if its important to you to be with her then be with her. If its more important you pass the CPA then do that. Everyone's got their own priorities. My situation was during the football season a couple years i had a sister who had cancer for awhile and during one of my games she took a turn for the worst. She was put on a respirator and my parents told me about it after the game. So i drove home Sunday morning to be with her then drove back to school monday night for classes and practice. Thursday she ended up passing away so i drove home thursday and her funeral was friday. Then drove to be with the team a couple hours after the funeral to prepare my self for the game. It's all about whats important to you and what was important to the person. My sister would never want me to miss a football game because of something related to her so i gave her all the attention i could and i honored her in the game. So it's all about what you think is best.

[Tncincy]

I am so sorry about your mom, Life happens….the same feeling came over me when I lost my niece two weeks ago. It's very heartbreaking and I was able to study but when I went to the funeral services and saw my sister in deep agony I have not been the same. Seeing the picture bought the reality of your mom's health to view. I could never advise you on how you feel or where your allegiance should lye (test or family)……Only you know how strong you are and only you know if you can stand taking far a 4th time. What ever decision you make I'm sure it will be the right one. Many thoughts and prayers to you and your family…..make your mom proud. (when ever you take the test).

It begins with a 75
Been here too long as a cheerleader....ready to pass

[Tncincy]

I am so sorry about your mom, Life happens….the same feeling came over me when I lost my niece two weeks ago. It's very heartbreaking and I was able to study but when I went to the funeral services and saw my sister in deep agony I have not been the same. Seeing the picture bought the reality of your mom's health to view. I could never advise you on how you feel or where your allegiance should lye (test or family)……Only you know how strong you are and only you know if you can stand taking far a 4th time. What ever decision you make I'm sure it will be the right one. Many thoughts and prayers to you and your family…..make your mom proud. (when ever you take the test).

It begins with a 75
Been here too long as a cheerleader....ready to pass

[TxMBA]

Amor, I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. I know how hard this must be for you, I lost a parent to cancer while I was in college and my own mom is not doing so well now either. Managing the emotional hardship alongside work and family commitments and FAR no less, is a tremendous endeavor. That's why you're tough, most other people wouldn't do this, but you are.

In a situation like this we have to find all the strength in ourselves that we can and continue to persevere, but also take a moment to heal. Take a step back and do what you think is best for you. If you feel that you need to go visit your mom, then get through this week and then do it. I think that moving forward it would be good for you to see her. You will be in my prayers, I admire your strength.

AUD: 82* Expired; 90
BEC: 77
REG: 72,87
FAR: 72, 68, 87

[TxMBA]

Amor, I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. I know how hard this must be for you, I lost a parent to cancer while I was in college and my own mom is not doing so well now either. Managing the emotional hardship alongside work and family commitments and FAR no less, is a tremendous endeavor. That's why you're tough, most other people wouldn't do this, but you are.

In a situation like this we have to find all the strength in ourselves that we can and continue to persevere, but also take a moment to heal. Take a step back and do what you think is best for you. If you feel that you need to go visit your mom, then get through this week and then do it. I think that moving forward it would be good for you to see her. You will be in my prayers, I admire your strength.

AUD: 82* Expired; 90
BEC: 77
REG: 72,87
FAR: 72, 68, 87

[mla1169]

If you have the opportunity to go be with your mom,, drop everything and go. If due to work and finances that is not possible, study as hard as you can. It will be a much needed distraction for you and the only thing you've got control over. I'm so sorry, it has to be much more troublesome when you're so far away.

FAR- 77
AUD -49, 71, 84
REG -56,75!
BEC -75

Massachusetts CPA (non reporting) since 3/12.

[mla1169]

If you have the opportunity to go be with your mom,, drop everything and go. If due to work and finances that is not possible, study as hard as you can. It will be a much needed distraction for you and the only thing you've got control over. I'm so sorry, it has to be much more troublesome when you're so far away.

FAR- 77
AUD -49, 71, 84
REG -56,75!
BEC -75

Massachusetts CPA (non reporting) since 3/12.

[Lindrobe]

I agree with mla1169 for sure. You don't want to have regrets. These exams will always be there.

FAR 12/3/14, 87
AUD 2/3/14, 90
BEC 4/1/14, 88
REG 5/27/14, 94

Licensed CPA, Indiana

"Successful people do things that unsuccessful people don't want to do"

[Lindrobe]

I agree with mla1169 for sure. You don't want to have regrets. These exams will always be there.

FAR 12/3/14, 87
AUD 2/3/14, 90
BEC 4/1/14, 88
REG 5/27/14, 94

Licensed CPA, Indiana

"Successful people do things that unsuccessful people don't want to do"

[Anonymous]

Thank you guys for all your well wishes. Your kind words help build me up at this low point of my life now.

[Author]

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