[Gerg, CPA]

can we start a support group for wives, husbands, girlfriends, boyfriends, etc?

all i keep hearing is that i dont spend enough time with my wife because of these stupid exams. even after we go out on a lovely date night…. i think i spend alot of quality time with her considering….

but i’m worried that it might be really affecting my marriage

i don’t know how i can get her to understand

FAR - 1/26/2012 - PASSED (78, but Lost credit), re-do 11/27/2013 - PASSED (87)!
AUD - EPIC FAIL, 71, 69; 68; 5/25/2013 - PASSED (85)!
REG - 10/1/2012 - 72; 7/1/2013 - 73 UGH, 10/1/2013 - PASSED (85)!
BEC - 2/28/2013 - PASSED (82)!
Licensed CPA!

Used Becker self-study materials (just this for FAR original & REG #1), WileyTestBank, NINJA notes/audio, and Roger cram course for AUD #5, REG #3 & FAR reboot. CPA!

[Anonymous]

Quick question. Do you really want your attention starved wife and my attention starved husband to meet, much less support each other? Hmm, I'm thinking, no. Not a good idea. All we can do is to let them know we love them and we'll make it right, just not right now.

[Gerg, CPA]

i think they all need a place to share their stories so she can see how good she has it …. at least i dont have kids yet … just an attention-starved dog

and they should be glad we're not off in foreign countries fighting wars & stuff. we just can't give them our full attention while we're studying …. or during tax season …. you married an accountant – things could be much worse

FAR - 1/26/2012 - PASSED (78, but Lost credit), re-do 11/27/2013 - PASSED (87)!
AUD - EPIC FAIL, 71, 69; 68; 5/25/2013 - PASSED (85)!
REG - 10/1/2012 - 72; 7/1/2013 - 73 UGH, 10/1/2013 - PASSED (85)!
BEC - 2/28/2013 - PASSED (82)!
Licensed CPA!

Used Becker self-study materials (just this for FAR original & REG #1), WileyTestBank, NINJA notes/audio, and Roger cram course for AUD #5, REG #3 & FAR reboot. CPA!

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry you are having such a rough go of it right now. Have you tried sending flowers for no reason? Or better yet, take her on a vacation when you are finished. Tell her you will go anywhere she wants to go. Then she can start planning a trip and have something to take her mind off of things for a while. You have CPA to look forward to, maybe she needs something too.

I told my husband he could retire when I pass. I didn't mean it, but I said it! LOL

[MCLKT]

Better yet, have her join a military wives support group. Then she will really know how good she has it.

(I am absolutely kidding. I have an ARMY brother, therefore military wife sister in law. I am not actually comparing the two.)

A:[73]97 F:[74]85 R:86 B:[74]82
*NINJA 10 Pt. COMBO & Yaeger*

[mla1169]

Significant others have 2 choices. (1) support the candidate 150%, unconditionally, so the candidate can pass all 4 exams in as short a period as possible or (2) demand that the exams don't interfere with the lifestyle they've become accustomed to, and deal with an irritable and exhausted candidate who runs a higher risk of multiple retakes, prolonging the agony.

Fortunately my husband understood those choices clearly and went for #1.

FAR- 77
AUD -49, 71, 84
REG -56,75!
BEC -75

Massachusetts CPA (non reporting) since 3/12.

[Anonymous]

@mla – My husband went for option 1 too and it makes my life so much better.

[lyzgrace]

Luckily my husband is still in school, so between my CPA exams and his board exams/ finals/ midterms, we both do a lot of studying. Some people say “Well at least it's nice that you get to study together!” but an accountant and a chiropractor studying in the same room have nothing to share but music …and an equally difficult time trying to avoid being distracted by the dog.

Good suggestions above, and I generally hate one-sided online relationship discussions, but it sounds like wifey does need to be a little bit more understanding. Just be as apologetic as you can be without being a doormat and assure her that you don't enjoy it any more than she does, but it WILL be over soon =)

AUD: 82
FAR: 78
BEC: 75
REG: 8/1 score release!!

[gladrial]

I woud love to enroll my husband in a CPA widow support group. He doesn't get how much time it takes to get studied for an exam. He also gets really frustrated when I tell him about the score report. He believes I should get copies of all the information I missed instead of a Stronger/weaker assessment page.

REG 64, and TBA

FAR 4/13

Reg 76
Bus 82
Aud 70, 86
Far 68 ,79 ten point combo FTW
April Fools day CPA licence WA

[Anonymous]

So I'm just curious about something. I definitely understand that a candidate needs the full and total support of his/her spouse, but does the spouse ever have a legitimate gripe? For some of the people who have taken the exam in excess of 10 times at $250 a pop plus reapplication fees, does the spouse ever get to bring up cost/benefit issues? Perhaps paying off the house, saving for kid's college, saving for retirement? I mean I applaud all of our friends here on this forum who have had the perseverance to keep going until they were done, but from a “my spouse better support me 110%” perspective, at some point are they allowed to bring up the opportunity cost (both in dollars as well as time and even mood)? Just wondering what your guys' thoughts are. I mean I'm so happy for jomarie, but she took the exam, what, 30 times? Figure that easily clears ten grand between test fees, application fees, and probably updated study materials. It's awesome that she finally passed them all, but would her husband have been a bad guy for starting to question potential alternative uses for that money? Again, not putting anyone down and certainly not starting anything, just playing devil's advocate.

[jeff]

Baseball – I always tell people that if they expect their spouse to sacrifice…they had better be sacrificing too…or they either won't pass or won't have a spouse.

Jeff Elliott, CPA (KS) | Another71 | NINJA CPA | NINJA CMA | NINJA CPE

[mla1169]

IMHO, I'd like to think the potential for opportunity cost is discussed up front, or at least at an appropriate time (like when writing the check for a retake, hubby or wife might say we need to discuss how much more of this we can afford?)

But once that NTS is received its a done deal, and thats not the time to question it.

Mr. MLA knew right up front that he and the kids would be losing me for an undetermined amount of time and an undetermined amount of money. He wanted a Mrs. MLA, CPA and knew it wasn't going to be as straigntforward as banging out four in a row.

Fortunately for ME, Mr. MLA had made several costly mistakes in his life that affected our family and he knew that at least there was a REWARD in store for suffering through mine 😉

FAR- 77
AUD -49, 71, 84
REG -56,75!
BEC -75

Massachusetts CPA (non reporting) since 3/12.

[Anonymous]

🙂 after reading this , I am blessed to have such a wonderful, supporting husband.. HE'S DONE SO MUCH FOR ME … darn i am so emotional now .. and highly motivated to pass this exam ASAP!!

talk to your spouse , i am sure they will understand! if they really love you ..

[Anonymous]

@Baseball – I make more money than my husband. I pay the bills. So this has never been brought up in my house.

[nimmle]

@Kricket. I am with you on the going on a trip after all is done. My BF and I have already booked an 8 day cruise this summer now that I am done with the CPA.

He is planning on taking his GMAT in April after I'm through with busy season. So basically while I'm crazy at work, he is studying his butt off and our dates have been me doing work at home while he studies in the other room. Lame….I know.

At least we have something to look forward to 🙂

REG - 5/21/2012 - 85
FAR - 7/24/2012 - 86
BEC - 8/27/2012 - 85
AUD - 10/5/2012 - 72....rematch 1/3/13 - 75!!!

AAANNNNDDDDD I'm done 🙂

[SeattleAccountant]

@mla1169

Nice observation!

Yes, it makes huge difference of how the other one is reacting and supporting.

Mine went for #1 as well but we had agreed to take a mandatory vacation away from all after this saga is over.

Meanwhile, each concentrates on the respective duties until this TEMPORARY situation is over with 🙂

Becker Class of Jan - Aug 2013: FARB DONE!!!!
CPA license pending 🙂

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