[Anonymous]

I just got off the phone with my best friend (or so I thought..) and I need to vent…

I’ve known her for almost 9yrs now, and we’ve been good friends since. We went to same junior high, highschool, college (different campus) and both majored in Business (though she did Finance, and I did Accounting).

She’s always been competitive with me, and I never cared much about it until she starts to brag. I eventually realized that’s just the way she is, and I ignored her bragging. I mean, who cares if you get 80 and she gets 90? Or if I had a better job than her for two yrs, etc…?

Anyways, we both graduated in December 2010, and she started to work for Boeing. I took classes for 6months at Community college to finish my 5th year to qualify to sit for the exams. I also started to study for CPA, but I didn’t take it seriously…I made lot of mistakes and I learned from them. I had no one to guide me through. I’m not making excuses, but it took me awhile to really understand what CPA is all about.

I received 3 failing scores (though one of them entitled a week of studying and skipping half of the book), before I received two passing scores. I took three months between to travel and enjoy summer, etc…

I know I have been at this for almost a year, and I’m not happy about it. I slack sometimes, and I know I can achieve this if I work hard enough. I never complain about the exam being impossible, and always maintained that, “if a person is willing to work hard for it, s/he can pass all 4 within 6months.”

Today, while I was talking to her…she goes, “a friend mine who passed REG with two months of studying said everyone should be able to pass these exams within few months. So why are you taking so long?” And no, she wasn’t just curious…her tone was harsh/judgmental. I didn’t say anything, and continued to talk for few mins before ending the call. However, I cried after…it broke my heart hearing one of my bff to say that. What a nasty thing to say…

I’m not happy to be studying all the time, I wanna enjoy my life, too…but not everyone can pass it on 1st try. If I don’t care, why should anyone pass a judgement at me? At least, I’m trying to work towards it. I’m not begging anyone for money or support, so if a person can’t support me…why bring me down?

This process has taught me so much, one of them being to find out who my real friends are…

Sorry for the long post, just had to vent…I’ve been feeling miserable.

[Anonymous]

@Mg — Yeah, it's a toxic relationship! Well, if you need a study buddy, I'll have to let you know the next time I'm in LA! 🙂 haha

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