[MustPass1988]

So I’ve worked at this company for a couple of years and pretty much the whole time, my coworker has treated me as though he’s threatened by me. I’ve caught him talking about me to my manager over things that he blew out of proportion (like for example he tried to schedule a meeting during lunchtime and I said that I was unavailable because I always go to a yoga class during that time and he forwarded the email to my manager saying that this was “typical behavior from me” and that I was always unavailable which is completely untrue ). He micromanages me to the point where he makes me send him drafts of my emails before I send them out to people. Keep in mind, he is NOT my manager in any way, just my coworker. There have actually been several remediations between he and I and my manager but my manager has actually said “I would go to the end of the earth for [coworker]” so he doesn’t do anything about it. My manager constantly tells me that he sees how my coworker treats me and that he’s actually extremely frustrated with him about it, but then doesn’t do anything. The thing that really frustrates me is that my manager tells my coworker everything. I was having health issues and they thought I had a hernia and I needed to go get an ultrasound and I told my manager this, and got an email from my coworker later that day saying “I hope you feel better, I heard that you were having some stomach problems”. So present day: I was offered a job opportunity internally within a different department. I found out on Monday from my manager and then discovered that he told 3 of my coworkers on Friday before even telling me. I was having coworkers asking me about it before I even had a job description or decided to apply! A week later, I decided to apply for it and told my manager beforehand who assured me that he would not tell any coworkers until it was “official”. Two hours later, I got an email from this coworker saying “I’ve heard some news about you, can we have a meeting to discuss this?” I ignored him and then went to my manager and said “you told me that you weren’t going to tell [coworker] until it was official…” and he turned bright red, mumbled something, and then grabbed his phone and went into a conference room to call the coworker. Now, hardly anyone in my department is talking to me, (my manager hasn’t said one word to me today) and I scheduled a meeting with the VP of my group to let him know why I decided to apply for this position. I want to let him know that I’m unhappy about the fact that everyone in the department knew about this opportunity before I did and the way that my manager and coworker talk about me. Any suggestions for ways to bring it up?

AUD: PASSED [81]; Expired, retaking August 23rd
BEC: PASSED [83]; Expired, retaking July 11th
REG: PASSED [83]
FAR: FAILED [64]; Retaking May 23rd

[sailorangel59]

I'd still go and speak to someone in your HR department. Some of the things they are doing may be a violation of company policy if not the law (speaking of medical privacy in the latter case).

[sailorangel59]

I'd still go and speak to someone in your HR department. Some of the things they are doing may be a violation of company policy if not the law (speaking of medical privacy in the latter case).

[MustPass1988]

I actually just had a good discussion with my manager and feel much better about the department so we'll see how it goes. However, I was asked in my interview for this internal position if I was married and whether or not I had kids. The job went to an older woman on the basis that she had more experience. Thinking of going to HR for that one because it seems a little fishy.

AUD: PASSED [81]; Expired, retaking August 23rd
BEC: PASSED [83]; Expired, retaking July 11th
REG: PASSED [83]
FAR: FAILED [64]; Retaking May 23rd

[MustPass1988]

I actually just had a good discussion with my manager and feel much better about the department so we'll see how it goes. However, I was asked in my interview for this internal position if I was married and whether or not I had kids. The job went to an older woman on the basis that she had more experience. Thinking of going to HR for that one because it seems a little fishy.

AUD: PASSED [81]; Expired, retaking August 23rd
BEC: PASSED [83]; Expired, retaking July 11th
REG: PASSED [83]
FAR: FAILED [64]; Retaking May 23rd

[sailorangel59]

Yeah, technically that is none of their business. Similar to if you were a woman if they asked if you were pregnant.

[sailorangel59]

Yeah, technically that is none of their business. Similar to if you were a woman if they asked if you were pregnant.

[MustPass1988]

I am a woman haha 🙂 I guess not having a picture probably makes it hard to tell 😉

AUD: PASSED [81]; Expired, retaking August 23rd
BEC: PASSED [83]; Expired, retaking July 11th
REG: PASSED [83]
FAR: FAILED [64]; Retaking May 23rd

[MustPass1988]

I am a woman haha 🙂 I guess not having a picture probably makes it hard to tell 😉

AUD: PASSED [81]; Expired, retaking August 23rd
BEC: PASSED [83]; Expired, retaking July 11th
REG: PASSED [83]
FAR: FAILED [64]; Retaking May 23rd

[fsugirl2005]

@ mustpass1988

It is against federal law for a potential employer or employer to ask about familial status. Chances are, you got passed over for the answer you gave. You now have the option of reporting them to the EEOC but the person who interviewed you can deny it because there was no recording of the conversation or uninterested 3rd party present.

Honey if I were you, I'd find another job because these people don't know the law and they are unprofessional. Maybe you don't want to go job hunting again but suck it up and move on please.

AUD - 10/21/16 (75----07/2010 expired)
FAR - 10/28/16
BEC - 11/2016
REG - 01/2017

Using Gleim CPA Review, Ninja Audio, Ninja Book

[fsugirl2005]

@ mustpass1988

It is against federal law for a potential employer or employer to ask about familial status. Chances are, you got passed over for the answer you gave. You now have the option of reporting them to the EEOC but the person who interviewed you can deny it because there was no recording of the conversation or uninterested 3rd party present.

Honey if I were you, I'd find another job because these people don't know the law and they are unprofessional. Maybe you don't want to go job hunting again but suck it up and move on please.

AUD - 10/21/16 (75----07/2010 expired)
FAR - 10/28/16
BEC - 11/2016
REG - 01/2017

Using Gleim CPA Review, Ninja Audio, Ninja Book

[Author]

Replies