[SFLocal]

I need some advice. I received an offer for a local accounting firm, but I had to turn it down because my wife does not support my taking the offer. Accepting the offer entails a paycut, but I would easily make it up in 2 years. I received a promotion and a $15K raise in my current job that is unrelated to accounting. I was in school before we got married, so this career path was not coming out of nowhere.

How would you convince your spouse to support your decision?

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[Study Monk]

@SF Local

Do you need the job to get the general work experience requirement?

If so just do it and tell her it was the decision you need to make.

That being said it will take a few years probably to climb back to 75k, maybe longer in public accounting.

I spoke to an ancient wise man who sent me on a mushroom induced journey through an ancient forest to find the key to passing the CPA exam. A talking spider monkey told me to throw the last of my drinking water in the dirt to find what I was looking for. So I followed his instructions and the following message appeared in the soil:

"Do 5000 multiple choice questions for each section"

[jeff]

I've been married 11 years (yeah, I'm old…) and since you're asking for advice, I'll toss mine in there.

This decision affects both of you. You didn't mention what her reasons are, but her feelings are valid because she's a 50% stakeholder in your little consolidated entity 🙂

You said you will make the money back within two years – well … that's assuming a lot.

That's assuming you will get the requisite raises for that. You're also assuming your current pay rate stays static.

A lot can happen in two years. I was hired by a publicly traded company that paid $30k to move me 60 miles (including signing bonus).

2 years later, they were laying people off.

I think that if something is the right path for your family, you'll both be on the same page eventually.

Jeff Elliott, CPA (KS) | Another71 | NINJA CPA | NINJA CMA | NINJA CPE

[jeff]

I've been married 11 years (yeah, I'm old…) and since you're asking for advice, I'll toss mine in there.

This decision affects both of you. You didn't mention what her reasons are, but her feelings are valid because she's a 50% stakeholder in your little consolidated entity 🙂

You said you will make the money back within two years – well … that's assuming a lot.

That's assuming you will get the requisite raises for that. You're also assuming your current pay rate stays static.

A lot can happen in two years. I was hired by a publicly traded company that paid $30k to move me 60 miles (including signing bonus).

2 years later, they were laying people off.

I think that if something is the right path for your family, you'll both be on the same page eventually.

Jeff Elliott, CPA (KS) | Another71 | NINJA CPA | NINJA CMA | NINJA CPE

[runnerup]

My advice is to take the job. This is what you've been aiming for and I can't even believe she's trying to stop you (of course I don't know all the details here).

I've been married for 8 years. I don't make a lot of money, but we get by (I am the sole income-earner in this household). I'd have some choice words for my husband if he tried to tell me what job I could and couldn't take.

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BEC 11/20/13 - 87
ethics 11/27/13 - 92%

[runnerup]

My advice is to take the job. This is what you've been aiming for and I can't even believe she's trying to stop you (of course I don't know all the details here).

I've been married for 8 years. I don't make a lot of money, but we get by (I am the sole income-earner in this household). I'd have some choice words for my husband if he tried to tell me what job I could and couldn't take.

REG 10/12/13 - 94
FAR 10/17/13 - 93
AUD 11/11/13 - 92
BEC 11/20/13 - 87
ethics 11/27/13 - 92%

[jlough]

What is the reason for her wanting you to reject the offer? Is she worried that the paycut will put too much of a strain on family finances? Is it that she doesn't want you to work long hours? Do you need to relocate for the job and she doesn't want to move? Are there family circumstances (kids, elderly family members, illness in the family) that need your attention and would be neglected if you worked in public?

My advice to you (I'm married as well) is to come to an arrangement that works for the both of you. Take her concerns into consideration, but make a final decision that is best for your family as a whole.

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R- 10/13- 79
A- 11/13- 99
B- 1/14- 86

Licensed in PA- 3/20/2014

This exam ALMOST defeated me back in 2006-2008, but I came back and WON!

[jlough]

What is the reason for her wanting you to reject the offer? Is she worried that the paycut will put too much of a strain on family finances? Is it that she doesn't want you to work long hours? Do you need to relocate for the job and she doesn't want to move? Are there family circumstances (kids, elderly family members, illness in the family) that need your attention and would be neglected if you worked in public?

My advice to you (I'm married as well) is to come to an arrangement that works for the both of you. Take her concerns into consideration, but make a final decision that is best for your family as a whole.

F- 7/13- 84
R- 10/13- 79
A- 11/13- 99
B- 1/14- 86

Licensed in PA- 3/20/2014

This exam ALMOST defeated me back in 2006-2008, but I came back and WON!

[Anonymous]

I find this question incredibly tough. I've been married 12 years and I am 100% for the marital unit/team mentality. We are in this together and we make decisions together. Sometimes I win; sometimes I lose. But If I worked for years to train for a specific professional career and then my husband told me I couldn't accept that position…l would have a SERIOUS problem with that. With that being said, I don't know the particulars of the OP's circumstance and I know it is not black and white… but at Baxter's house..we would have a Sunday Come to Jesus meeting about this.

[Anonymous]

I find this question incredibly tough. I've been married 12 years and I am 100% for the marital unit/team mentality. We are in this together and we make decisions together. Sometimes I win; sometimes I lose. But If I worked for years to train for a specific professional career and then my husband told me I couldn't accept that position…l would have a SERIOUS problem with that. With that being said, I don't know the particulars of the OP's circumstance and I know it is not black and white… but at Baxter's house..we would have a Sunday Come to Jesus meeting about this.

[Shawn7]

Always family first then CPA, career bla bla bla,,i used to bring CPA firm shit to my home as well affecting whole of my family near to end my marriage left firm believe in GOD got nice opportunity now happy with two kids,,,,,things are not in your control that you will plan two years three years just focus on the time you have now,,,,

[Shawn7]

Always family first then CPA, career bla bla bla,,i used to bring CPA firm shit to my home as well affecting whole of my family near to end my marriage left firm believe in GOD got nice opportunity now happy with two kids,,,,,things are not in your control that you will plan two years three years just focus on the time you have now,,,,

[Tux]

Focus on understanding her reasons. Validate her concerns and brainstorm together to find solutions.

If she's concerned about the money, then are there ways that you can reduce your household expenses?

What other concerns does she have? If it's long hours, then what adjustments can you make elsewhere in your schedule?

Respect her concerns and her feedback. Look for options that will work for both of you.

FAR - 86 - 2/27/14
AUD - 75 - 5/29/14
BEC - 80 - 8/31/14
REG - 89 - 2/27/15
Praise Jesus! I'm done!!

Study resources:
Becker
Wiley test bank

[Tux]

Focus on understanding her reasons. Validate her concerns and brainstorm together to find solutions.

If she's concerned about the money, then are there ways that you can reduce your household expenses?

What other concerns does she have? If it's long hours, then what adjustments can you make elsewhere in your schedule?

Respect her concerns and her feedback. Look for options that will work for both of you.

FAR - 86 - 2/27/14
AUD - 75 - 5/29/14
BEC - 80 - 8/31/14
REG - 89 - 2/27/15
Praise Jesus! I'm done!!

Study resources:
Becker
Wiley test bank

[005]

tell her,

“fall back, i'm in the zone”

and take it

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REG - ✔
AUD - ✔
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[005]

tell her,

“fall back, i'm in the zone”

and take it

BEC - ✔
REG - ✔
AUD - ✔
FAR - 11/29/14

CPAExcel, Ninja MCQs, and a sh*t ton of coffee

[Author]

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