[Anonymous]

I’m an emotional wreck and feel like doing nothing. I’ve worked out almost 2 hours today to keep my mind off of her.

I have so much stuff to go over with BEC, exam is Sunday. I just don’t feel like doing anything right now.

What should I do?

[Anonymous]

Take a break tonight. Eat your favorite food, have a beer. Go to bed early or sleep in a bit if you can.

When you get up tomorrow promise yourself that you won't let “her” make your life any worse. You will be mad at yourself later if you lose focus now because of this chic. Put all of your energy into taking down BEC.

[Anonymous]

Thanks for replying…

I think that's what I'm just going to do tonight. I can't sit here and get anything done. I'm just upset.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry you're in a rough spot. Do what you gotta do tonight to clear your mind as best you can. I would also suggest “unplugging” until Sunday. You don't need any distractions.

[tuwanda]

hey…stay in the present moment which is the CPA exam right now. I know that it is easier said than done, but think about your goals right now and what you can control. you can control your time and study.

[samdiegoCPA]

Sorry to hear that!! I recently had a bad spat with my best friend and am in the middle of deciding what to do – so the quote that's helped me recently is “Focus on what you CAN control, and that is passing your exams”. You can't control this situation (aka her feelings, the situation currently, etc) but you can control yourself passing this exam.

AUD: 84
REG: 84
BEC: 79
FAR: 83

[mmcgrad1]

I agree with taking the evening off to try and clear your mind. Then tomorrow make sure when you wake up you set up in your mind what you need to accomplish study wise and write it down. Then make sure you get that studying complete. If you are religious, I would suggest praying some meditative prayers. They may help your mind calm down. It works for me at least.

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[abacus]

I'm a list maker. So I would make a list of any and all positives of NOT being with her. They can be general benefits of being single or very specific things that you did not like about her. Go out with your buddies or have a beer with a close friend and toast to your independence. And then, as others have said, do your best to focus on what you CAN control. Don't let her dictate your future.

If you think it is is your best interest to move the exam to January, do that sooner rather than later to minimize fees. But if you have prepared adequately, do your best to clear your mind and make it count on Sunday!

BEC 81
AUD 76
FAR 70, 76
REG 58, 78! DONE!

"I am not my intentions. I am my actions."

[jeff]

A fiance breakup is more than your standard “we just broke up” story … that's a big deal. If you can't study in the next week – no one would blame you … cancel it.

The most you stand to lose is the $90 or whatever it costs to reschedule to January, assuming no 18 month window issues come into play.

I know a guy (actually never met him … old A71 alum) whose wife left him while studying for REG the weekend before his exam.

He took the exam and passed if I remember correctly … AND they got back together and are still together.

All of that to say others have been there too, but that still really sucks and I'm sorry it happened.

Jeff

Jeff Elliott, CPA (KS) | Another71 | NINJA CPA | NINJA CMA | NINJA CPE

[MICHI2D2G]

@car80x…I'm so sorry to hear. The CPA sucks but life's challenges are more difficult so if she couldn't stick it through this, you're better off without her. It's your call whether to take or cancel this…. Just think of it as a favor that she gave you 4 extra days of time to study. Take all your anger and frustrations out on the exam and just beat it up!!

[love2passcpa]

Whatever you do, please don't allow this to make you lose your concentration on your exam. I hope after you pass all 4 parts your finace(if you want him or her to come back) comes back to you. YOU CAN DO THIS.

FAR PASSED
BEC PASSED
REG PASSED
AUD PASSED

[monsterchiz]

Study Study Study………..

pass this exam and become a CPA, make her regret about leaving you.

If you fail this exam, you will get no sympathy. Your failure will be another reason for your fiance to leave you.

Do not delay your exam, 4 days are enough to review BEC. If you postpone the exam this time, you are more likely to do it again later, it will kill your motivation.

Go get some Whisky and fast food, get drunk for tonight and start studying tomorrow.

[Anonymous]

I'm with Jeff. If you need to reschedule to get your head together then do it. It's cheaper than a retake. Then come back and pass the test. Living well is the best revenge anyway!

[michaelabs22]

I think all of these are good replies, sounds like you're in a horrible spot, I can't imagine. I would have to agree with Jeff though. If you want to be a CPA, you Will become a CPA. This one exam will not define you nor your career. If I were in your position, I might go have a beer and be with friends. If you feel like doing a cram review session the day before and giving it a shot – by all means – the worst thing you do is lose a little bit of money. Sorry to hear about what happened.

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B - 11/20/12 - Passed!!!
F - 11/12/13 - Passed!!!
R - 02/01/13 - Passed!!!

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[Anonymous]

I'm sorry this happened to you. I hope everything comes out okay. I'm sure everyone at this board is pulling for you.

[Trisha]

I am very sorry you are dealing with this. I also agree with Jeff. Take a day to process things ~ be with friends and family and do what you can to find some peace. Then make a decision to either postpone or take the exam. Once you make your decision, stick to it with no regrets. If you choose to wait, know that is what was meant to be. If you choose to take the exam, give it everything you have knowing you are capable of passing. My thoughts are with you. Sending lots of positive energy your way for wherever things take you.

REG 72, 86 and DONE!!!
BEC 80 🙂
FAR 72, 78 🙂
AUD 73, 76 🙂

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