[Anonymous]

Well, today I was blindsided by my boyfriend of 17 months after a three hour hang out at my house. As he was leaving he said we should break up and proceeded to take out a bullet point list of his reasons why our lives together no longer make sense. At the top of the list was studying for the CPA exams. Am I the only one who has gotten dumped during this horrible process??? I am now completely unmotivated to study after a failure in my first section FAR and a possible failure in AUD that I took on Saturday and now this break up. I feel like I wasted precious study hours trying to make this relationship work and now it is costing me study time. Any advice/positive thoughts are welcome 🙂

[evesocal]

CPA Dilemma, he was the wrong guy and you are better of without him. I know it sounds trite but the right guy will support you as you study. A bullet point list of reasons to break up?? Geez, that right there should go to the top of YOUR list in being glad you're done with him. That's really lame. And weird. I know it hurts and makes it even harder to focus but soon enough you'll realize you are way better off without him.

Keep studying, you will feel so great when you achieve this! And you will.

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R: 80
A: 77
F: 81
Ethics: 84, 92 and done!
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[joserws6]

Cheer up girl, I'll be your boyfriend:)

Kidding aside, you should use this situation as motivation. Success is one of the greatest forms of revenge. In addition, your lucky to find out his lack of loyalty towards you before things got serious. Just Imagine if he walked out on you and you were married.

[Anonymous]

Thank you EVERYONE for your comments and support it really means a lot especially from complete strangers! Funny thing is I recall telling him about Pete Olinto's example the first lecture on FAR about information being relevant and faithful and he said you should tell your partner “its relevant that I study for the cpa, so you better stay faithful”. I took this very hard because it was so out of the blue and after being at my house for three hours I don't understand how he sat there and pretended nothing was wrong when he has a list in his pocket waiting for the right moment to break up with me.

We've talked since that horrible conversation and he is really struggling with his own issues at the moment which I knew nothing of. It wouldn't be so hard had we been having problems or he cheated but at that moment we were genuinely happy (or so I thought). Now that I had some time to process and cry my eyes out I see that he was probably looking for a way out in order to avoid having to open up about his struggles to me. I agree, I deserve better than someone who will just give up on me and not understand that my future is very important. I will use this as motivation to start restudying for the parts I failed and just move forward.

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