The Ragin' Cajun is about to get on her soapbox. I'll be brief and probably tick some people off. I appologize in advance, but the truth is, I'm not sorry for anything I'm about to type.
If the person you are with can't handle you at your worst, they don't deserve you at your best. If they absent through your struggle, they have no right to be present during your success. It's the person who sits up with you going over flashcards, buys groceries, and all of the crap that you feel like you should be doing, that will stand by you through whatever variety of crap sandwich that life is going to hand you.
What is this about planning your life around a man's schedule? Um, STOP THAT! NOW! Listen to the old lady here, I've been down this road before. But this goes both ways. Men, if you are re-arranging your lives around her schedule, then STOP THAT NOW! That is a recipe for disaster, especially, if you feel like you are the only one making sacrifices.
If the person you are with, loves you and you love them, then you will get through the BS of the exam, and kids, and work, and dumba$$ neighbors, and light bills and trips to the doctor, and everything else in life that is going to get in your way. Life's a bitch and she keeps having puppies. You deal with it. It will make you stronger if you tough it out together. Now I'm not saying that you will be happy all the time, because you won't. I was being a smart a$$ during an argument with my husband one night when he said “I'm not happy”. So I pulled the Marriage license out of the filing cabinet and pointed out to him “It doesn't say anywhere on here that you are going to be happy all of the time for the rest of your life or that I am the only one who can wash dishes. So, Suck it up Buttercup, it's your turn to clean the kitchen.” Marriage and relationships are about give and take and after 5 years on this slow train ride through hell, my husband thought that he had given enough. Then the miraculous thing happened. I PASSED! Now, he doesn't feel the pressure of taking every job that comes his way, because he knows that I will always have a job. He can pick and choose and tell the crazy people that want a light switch on every recessed light in a room that they will have to find another electrician.
The Ragin' Cajun is off her soapbox and is going home to fix her husband a decent meal for the first time in weeks.
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