[Ntw6817]

It seems like everyone has had a boss who was hard to work for at some point in their life. I was wondering if anyone had any tips on how to get through it? I’ve been trying to be super nice but I’m still new and learning and asking a question sets her off. I try to only ask questions when I’m done and try to keep them brief but it doesn’t seem to work.

It may be because I’m more of an introvert and on the shy side so she feels she can be kinda a bully towards me because she knows I’m just going to take it.

It’s a real shame because except for this one manager, I would love this job but right now I’m looking to transfer.

[LatinoTurkCPA]

Yes I have been in the same situation, ended up going to HR but only once I had overwhelming evidence because before I played my hand. I gave them an opportunity to treat me fairly before going to HR but they didn't. They all sided with her until I played my hand but in the process burned lots of bridges and am an outcast at my job.

If your boss doesn't respect you they never will respect you, it's just the way it is. Put everything out in the open, constantly solicit feedback, constantly put to paper what you are doing to demonstrate your progress, be at their beck and call. That's really all that you can do, and even then they can decide to say you are under performing. If during the interview they don't seem like someone that you would like working under, perhaps think twice before accepting the job.

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[LatinoTurkCPA]

Yes I have been in the same situation, ended up going to HR but only once I had overwhelming evidence because before I played my hand. I gave them an opportunity to treat me fairly before going to HR but they didn't. They all sided with her until I played my hand but in the process burned lots of bridges and am an outcast at my job.

If your boss doesn't respect you they never will respect you, it's just the way it is. Put everything out in the open, constantly solicit feedback, constantly put to paper what you are doing to demonstrate your progress, be at their beck and call. That's really all that you can do, and even then they can decide to say you are under performing. If during the interview they don't seem like someone that you would like working under, perhaps think twice before accepting the job.

F: 76 8/31/13 Wiley Test Bank
A: 77 11/4/13 Wiley Test Bank
R
B

MBA 06/2012 - ?

[Anonymous]

Well, I don't know how well this advice will work for you because I am an extrovert and very confrontational. However, to that point, I have had issues in the past being a little sharp-tongued. I think I get away with a lot of it because I'm a top performer, but I'm constantly working to soften my approach, so the key is to find a happy medium.

She sounds like a b-word IMO…she might be going through some personal issues that is making her be that way, but that doesn't make it right. I would personally call her out and say, “listen, I get a sense that I am aggravating you every time I ask you a question…maybe that's way off base, but perceptions are realities and that's how I'm currently perceiving you when I try to approach you…is there something I'm doing wrong or that you would like me to do differently?

She's a terrible manager and will never be an effective leader. You can't treat people like that and expect them to product consistent quality. If you manage out of fear, you will achieve short-term results, but at the cost of long-term benefits like: increased loyalty/lower attrition rate, better work quality through individual development, and team cohesiveness. It's short-sighted and will bite her in the a** eventually (probably). Good luck, friend!

[Anonymous]

Well, I don't know how well this advice will work for you because I am an extrovert and very confrontational. However, to that point, I have had issues in the past being a little sharp-tongued. I think I get away with a lot of it because I'm a top performer, but I'm constantly working to soften my approach, so the key is to find a happy medium.

She sounds like a b-word IMO…she might be going through some personal issues that is making her be that way, but that doesn't make it right. I would personally call her out and say, “listen, I get a sense that I am aggravating you every time I ask you a question…maybe that's way off base, but perceptions are realities and that's how I'm currently perceiving you when I try to approach you…is there something I'm doing wrong or that you would like me to do differently?

She's a terrible manager and will never be an effective leader. You can't treat people like that and expect them to product consistent quality. If you manage out of fear, you will achieve short-term results, but at the cost of long-term benefits like: increased loyalty/lower attrition rate, better work quality through individual development, and team cohesiveness. It's short-sighted and will bite her in the a** eventually (probably). Good luck, friend!

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