Maybe his attitude became like this due to being mistreated? Or should he just allow everyone to kick him in teeth and take it with a smile? What if he was not ‘fitting in' because people didn't want to associate with him because of hiss race, should he still smile about it?
For example, my manager could not believe what was happening to me, her having experienced people going out of their way to ‘network' with her and giving her the benefit of the doubt.
It is easy to be a ‘good fit' when everyone wants to ‘network' with you for whatever reason, attractive face, work satus, social status.
I grew up in poverty, no friends or family, not established network at work. People mostly ignored me at best or trampled all over me at worse. Despite me being more outgoing and first to talk to someone new and to introduce myself, that matters very little outside initial first impression most of the times. If you don't have something that others want they will not bother ‘networking' with you.
For instance, one individual who has years less experience than me is a jersey shore girl who got the job by leaving her gpa off her resume. She was bragging how her professors to told her she would never find a job. She constantly makes condescending and borderline racist remarks, yet everyone bends over backward to ‘network' with her.
The unfortunate truth is that being nicer and pleasant and outgoing in of itself will not make you fit in. In fact, the things that matter more, status, work or social, means that you don't necessarily need to be nice or outgoing because people will approach you.
Not being a good fit or needs to work on communication skills is often just an excuse that is used by others who don't want to associate with you. Like when they tried to tell me that I was not going to get the promotion they said ‘well why didn't you ask about what you needed to do to get the promotion'. Both my manager's manager said this and my vp, but surprise! I did do that with my manger and she confirmed it with hr.
Unfortunately, in corporate america unless you have an objective ear (ie hr) it is not about being right. If you are not liked or have something that others want, if you are wrong they wil hold it against you… If you are right, they will change the rules to make you wrong.
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