[Future Ninja]

feedback is highly appreciated.

AUD - 79 (expired) retaking July 28,2016
FAR - 76 expiring July 31, 2016
BEC - 85
REG - 74,74,74,74,59,70,

[Anonymous]

Elaborate – you being jealous of others or others being jealous of yours? Over what topics – promotions received, ability to pass exams, the hottie they're dating, car they drive? Without knowing what type of jealousy, it will be hard for us to advise.

[Skynet]

I usually tell the ladies that are fighting over me to make sure that at least a few blouse buttons are ripped of and to make sure that there is a lot of hair tossing.

[Future Ninja]

@lilla well im the head of the accounting department handling staffs 10 years older than me and they've been in the company for more than 3 years while i'm a rookie. they are challenging my decisions and bypassing me by sending reports directly to the general manager plus telling other staff that I dont know what I'm doing. Im destructed from my upcoming FAR exam.

@skynet lolz. megan fox and britney spears fighting over you. ^_^

AUD - 79 (expired) retaking July 28,2016
FAR - 76 expiring July 31, 2016
BEC - 85
REG - 74,74,74,74,59,70,

[Anonymous]

lol @Skynet… how many times have you visited HR within the past year?

[mla1169]

Well I wouldn't call it jealousy but that a certain level of trust has yet to be established. I would hope this general manager redirects the reports to you . Would discuss with the GM and let him/her know you will do everything possible to keep him from being bothered with their nonsense but a big part of that is the GM respecting you enough not to play along with their insubordination.

FAR- 77
AUD -49, 71, 84
REG -56,75!
BEC -75

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[Anonymous]

This happens when you are promoted young or early and I've dealt with it myself, so do sympathize. The best thing to do is make sure you're always more mature than those around you (aka don't get caught up in the immaturity of their behavior), work extra hard to be always ahead and make sure that the decisions you make are right before making them so that they can't second-guess what you're doing. The hardest path but the best one is to just ignore their immature games of jealousy. I'm not good at it, but it's the best thing to do when able.

When you are pretty confident that the GM is happy with your work, then I would do as mla said and approach him in a way that you're trying to keep your people out of his way and just wanted him to know that you're working on it and he can redirect them to you for you to take care of. Don't make him get involved in their immature squabbles or you, being the one that brought them to him, will seem like the one who is immature.

Overall, just try to be the mature one, remain intelligent and in control, and let their immature jealousy pass on in time.

[fuzyfro89]

Do these people report to you, as in you will complete or contribute substantially to their performance reviews?

If so, I would have a talk with all of them regarding what things you would like for the department or group to do. If they continue doing things against your preferences, you have reason to take it further, but I would start there. I don't know the whole story, but maybe there's a non-spiteful reason they send things directly to the GM… perhaps that's what they did before?

Regardless, give them a chance to do things properly but share the info without being confrontational. The second time, confront them.

[JS867_5309]

I'm having the same problem with my staff. She's easily old enough to be my mom and does not at all respect me. What's even harder is that my supervisor doesn't like me to discipline her.

It's been 3 years and I finally got permission to give her a verbal warning next week. I think, aside from being a strong employee, it takes a firm hand in management to earn the respect. At least with my employee – without it she just does whatever she wants because she knows there's no repercussions. Once they get the picture, you can stop micromanaging them.

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[Texan_Stuck_In_OK]

I'm also in the same position, I'm the controller and yet the youngest of the accounting staff. You have to be firm but fair in letting the staff know that you are in this position because of your qualifications, otherwise one of them would have your job. It may take some work to prove it to them that you deserve to be there but be persistent. If they don't start respecting your position, then have that conversation and let them know that it could impact their performance evaluations. Notice I said your position, you have to show them respect as well to earn personal respect from them. It takes some time but it can be done. I only have one holdout now and even the others are starting to pressure her to let it go. Best of luck!

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[Mamabear]

I'm in the same position and there has been substantial backlash from one staff accountant that reports to me. Like Taxan_Stuck_In-OK, it used to be multiple people that had issues, but now it is just one. You earn their respect and most will come around, but there's always that one that just wants to be in the spotlight. Repeatedly going over my head for things that should be addressed with me. No respect at all for my position. I've tried to be nice and I've tried to be available for discussions, but at some point you just have to tell them what you expect and if they don't fall in line, document it on their review. You should get in the habit of documenting everything because there could be a time when it will be your word against theirs and you need to have your ducks in a row. It sucks, but some people just don't know when to accept the hand they were dealt and either move on to another company or deal with it like big girls/boys.

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[Anonymous]

I would say Jealousy is everywhere, what I would personally do is one of two options : 1- ignore the person and act as if they don't exist 2- try to joke around and bring them closer to you, depends on the situation you're facing, and the circumstances around.

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